A
male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I've been dating a really nice girl for about 2 and a half months. Things are going really well. About 5 weeks ago she told me about a job opportunity she was notified of that would take her to France for 4 months starting January 2009. We both live Vancouver, Canada. She told me immediately that she applied for the job but hasn't heard anything back since. She still believes that she is going to get selected for the job and continues to study the job details. This concerns me because we will be 6 months into our relationship if she is chosen to leave for the job. I often have a hard time letting myself get close to her because of this and also get distracted by even when I'm not with her. It bugs me because I think we BOTH should be focused on the growth of our relation ship. I often wonder if she thinks about our future as much as I do.Should I talk to her about this and if so, does anyone have advice on what I should say? Reply to this Question
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (23 September 2008):
 Lots of couples have survived LDR's, but not if they aren't communicating within their relationship. You need to be discussing all of this with her! Personally, my husband and I have lived on different continents for 19 months while I was raising our children, and that was only one of 4 times that we had an LDR. He travels still constantly on business still, and we have been married 31 years this week! It's all about communication and keeping your ties close, so get talking and find out how she feels about your future and how she sees her career developing. She needs support from you too! How are your plans and can your career be flexible enough for you to follow her? These are all things that you two need to discuss. Good Luck!
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