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writes: hi, my girlfriend is 15 weeks pregnant. and over the past month things have really gone sour. at first things obviously changed as her hormones were all over the place, but we were still quite happy. now for the last 3 weeks plus she has gone off sex and all physical contact, its causing us to row and i know its not good for her or the baby. but whenever i try to talk about it she explodes and goes off on one. she says she loves me and that should be enough. i have never been insecure before but this is making me feel very unsure about our future. she knows i would never walk away from her or our baby and sometimes think she uses this to treat me however and for it to be ok. is there a way i can be sure and any advice on making her feel better about herself thus saving our bond.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2006): Pregnancy is an emotionally volatile time, so it's no surprise that you're on a bit of a roller coaster ride here. Hang on and don't worry. Your girlfriend isn't crazy, and this isn't permanent. Mood swings are a very normal part of pregnancy. Stress, fatigue, changes in metabolism, and changes in hormones are major factors that affect a woman during pregnancy, and cause extreme mood swings. Your reaction to her pregnancy also plays a role in her moods. If things aren't looking well, it's very hard for her to stay upbeat. Try to keep a positive attitude when around your girlfriend, even if she happens to be chewing your head off at the moment. Although it's not pretty or fun, her moods swings aren't entirely her fault, and she's not using her pregnancy as an excuse to be nasty. To help get those mood swings in check, here are a few simple things your girlfriend can try. 1) Stay healthy. Get plenty of sleep and eat a wholesome, healthy diet. Being over-tired can only add to the irritability. 2) Excercise. It's known to lift moods. Check with the doctor to see what types of excercises for the different stages of pregnancy. 3) Pampering. Go shopping, take a trip, visit a friend, go to the spa. Do something that makes you feel relaxed and happy. 4) Check in with each other. Make time for each other. Maybe take that vacation you've been talking about. If you are having serious relationship problems, seek couple's counseling.
I hope everything works out. I wish you the best of luck. Stay supportive!
~RJGirl
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2006): Pregnancy is an emotionally volatile time, so it's no surprise that you're on a bit of a roller coaster ride here. Hang on and don't worry. Your girlfriend isn't crazy, and this isn't permanent. Mood swings are a very normal part of pregnancy. Stress, fatigue, changes in metabolism, and changes in hormones are major factors that affect a woman during pregnancy, and cause extreme mood swings. Your reaction to her pregnancy also plays a role in her moods. If things aren't looking well, it's very hard for her to stay upbeat. Try to keep a positive attitude when around your girlfriend, even if she happens to be chewing your head off at the moment. Although it's not pretty or fun, her moods swings aren't entirely her fault, and she's not using her pregnancy as an excuse to be nasty. To help get those mood swings in check, here are a few simple things your girlfriend can try. 1) Stay healthy. Get plenty of sleep and eat a wholesome, healthy diet. Being over-tired can only add to the irritability. 2)
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