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writes: i've got a girlfriend and so does this other girl. but i think we've both wondered what it would be like to be with each other, and think about each other. i mean, we pretty much behave like we're a couple sometimes, with flirtation and joking around. we even call each other our psuedo girlfriends. but i also think we're both too afraid to leave our current girlfriends to be together. not just because we don't want to hurt them, but because of attachments to them. i mean, i care so much about my current, and so does she. so it's really confusing. i have strong feelings for both of them. but after college in a few months, this other girl asked me to move with her out of state. that confuses me because i don't know how to read that. i feel like it may be her way of getting us together. anyway, i just don't know what to do about this situation. i don't want to hurt my girlfriend, or leave her, but i can't stop thinking about this other girl, either! what's wrong with me?? what should i do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2006): There's nothing wrong with you. It's very common and normal that someone involved in a healthy relationship develops feelings for someone else. There can be a million reasons for it, too. You could be subconciously unsatisfied with your current sweetheart, or simply be feeling some animal lust. Whatever the case, you have to make a decision that is best for YOU. Don't worry about your girlfriend or your potential new girlfriend or her girlfriend either. Be concerned only with your feelings right now. Weigh out the pros and cons of staying with your current honey, as well as the pros and cons of breaking up with your current and attempting to get the new interest. It sounds like no matter what, someone will end up hurt. Just make sure you make the decision you trust in your heart to be right. Go with your gut on this one. Whatever your impulse, it's most likely the right choice for you. Deep down inside, you know what you want to do. I wish you the best of luck and I hope everything works out okay. Stay strong!
~RJGirl
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