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writes:I need help I love my girlfriend but she is constantly thinking I'm cheating and she believes she has to cheat on my to stay with me I don't get it what can I do I love her so much I'll do anything for her I'm willing to get counsleing or whatever She says if I never cheated she would have been with me but that's the thing I never cheated on herShe said she saw something in my hands when I was printing out papers for us to study in my brothers roomI had nothing in my hands at all and she thought it was my brothers phone thinking that I was texting some girl when I never wasThen I was on the phone with her and my brothers were asking me about video games and some how she heard that my brother wanted to share his phone so I can talk to a girl. He never said anything and my girlfriend truly believes its true and that I am a good for nothing cheater I never cheated on her yet anything that would seem suspicious to her automaticly means I'm cheating Please I need help what do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2012): There is something I am guessing from her past that is making her feel that way. Maybe that is the way her morther acted towards her father and does not know any other way to be. Another thing it might be is immature. You have to let her know that this is driving you crazy and that it needs to stop.
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reader, AbigailBradbury  +, writes (3 February 2012):
 If you're telling us the truth and you haven't ever cheated on her or given her reason to believe you've cheated; then it seems the issues lie with her and it's her that needs to fix this. She seems very insecure.
Find out why. Talk to her and let her know she can tell you anything and you wont judge her. Something in her life must be causing her to be paranoid. Have her past relationships been bad? Has anything happened that's made her insecure? Once you've figured out why she's so paranoid, then you can work on helping her trust.
If she doesn't trust you, then i don't see any point in carrying on. Sounds harsh I know, but if you don't have trust you don't have anything. Good luck. x
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reader, Relationship.Chef +, writes (3 February 2012):
 Grow a backbone.
Explain to her that her suspicions are unbiased, and, it is only by the virtue of you being a gentleman that you tolerate her accusations.
Of course, you better be able able to substantiate your claim, or, else, you'd be the biggest liar.
Be a man. Present her with an ultimatum. You're not cheating, and, that's that.
If she doesn't like it, she can find another b/f, who'd treat her half as well as you do.
Don't be hurtful, but, stand your ground.
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