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writes:Hi all my girlfriend is being really confusing latley, i have been with her for 2.5 years, and i have been in the army for 1.5 years. the other day she told me that she doesnt think we should be together anymore, or shes no sure if she loves me as much as she did, she still says she loves me and that she misses me, but she dont know if it is the same as before. The strange thing about all this is that not even a week ago she was telling me how much she wants a family with me and how much she cant be without me, she said that she lives her life for our future. And now she is saying she wants to live her life for herself, literally 1 day after she said the other stuff. I looked on the internet for help and i came across a site that was about loneliness and what it does to you, and it seems 99% that this is what she is suffering from, she said she wants to have time apart for 1 week to see how she feels then, but im scared she will say she dont want me anymore, i can understand why she would do this to me she has been telling me that all she ever wants is me, then 2 days later she doesnt, does anyone know what this could be, has this ever happened to any of you, thank you all in advance.
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reader, jz707  +, writes (1 March 2009):
hey man,
I'm in the army and in Iraq right now and my wife is doing the exact samething, like i mean to a T. It does suck and hurts so bad and I don't know what to do either. She just told me see dosen't love me any more and I take my mid-tour leave in 4 weeks, and I don't know what I'll do if I go home and she won't touch or hold or kiss me but I'll have to deal with that then. For now I am just going to leave her alone for the next month and hope for the best and I think thats all you can do too. I know this is not real good advice but your not the only one and I feel for you, I feel like a little wuss for the way I feel but like a friend of mine says, your hurting and thats ok, it's what makes you a good person and thats all I can remember. I think she'll come back to you just like I believe my girl will to me. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): I wish you luck and hope it all works out for you.She is lucky to have such a strong but also sensitive man.A great mix.During this weeks trial be yourself and try to relax.It will be hard i know, but if you show tension it may affect the outcome.Things are ment to be.life is about balance and timing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes she is back home, she is 6-7 hour drive each way from me, she once felt like this before, but after about 1-2 days she felt normal again, and after that she said she doesnt kow what came over her, and that she will never feel like that again, but obviously she has, i have given her, the week she asked, and its only 1 day onto it, and it hurts so bad, literally i have a constant ache in my chest that wont go away, it makes me fell not hungry and i do want to do anything, i have no motivation. If after this week she says she doesnt want to be with me anymore, i will let her go, but im only letting her go becasue i love her so much and i only want her to be happy, even if it means living without her. I know im supposed to be a tough solider and everything, but to be honest love can bring event he biggest and strongest men to their knees, and belive me, im on my knees, thank you all for your help, i cant choose a best answer they are all good, i will let you guy's choose, thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2009): My darling. Take a deep breath and be cool.So i can help you more without giving private deatils lets know,are you working away from home? etc. with more info i can help.
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