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writes:dear cupid readers,ive posted on here about 5 months ago about my ex and son all that is sorted out!! now this may seem strange but even after having a son with my ex i have never felt this love that im feeling for my girlfriend!!we have a wanderful love life we love each other and we get on great most of the time, but if she is in a mood or tired or stressed she hits out at anybody i.e me her mum or anyone else around, this sat evening she rang me 33 times putting the phone down then ringing me again, now im normaly calm but it realy wound me up!! so when i met her today at her house i said i have a bone to pick with you in front of her mum( not the best words to say but i said it light heartedly) i then told that i wont stand being wound up like that(explaining about myself here by the way in brakets, now im the kind ov guy who wants a quite life no arguments so if i get upset id rather deal with myself than upset the person who upset me by confrontation)later tonight i explained this to her on the phone and she got all upset which realy upset me becouse i want us to be happy,my life with my girlfriend is all i have to build on, i live with my flat mate have a poor wage coming in due to debts and im realy trying to strive to achive things, i have applied to go on the tv show(uk)britains got talent as i have a passion for singing.i just keep thinking that if we split up my life will be over... tonight she txted me twice saying we was over and it realy hurt my feelings, then she asked me if i was ok and i said im fine when im not which is then a vicious circle.. because she knows im not... i cant emphasise how much i love her, she means the world to me!!! im beginning to ask myself how much do i mean to myself!! does this make sense!!!if you can make anything of my questions please write.. ps if i dont make sense then its becouse as i was writing this i was in tears..
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2008): Dear Poster
I am really sorry that you are allowing this girl to hurt you and treat you like this; I understand that you are trying your best to have a good relationship, but if this girl is not going to mature and show more self control, I am afraid you will have a very difficult future with her; I suggest you need to take stock; you need to talk to her and she will have to realize that she needs to stop this childish, immature and impulsive behavior;
Yes, I know you love her, but sometimes love is not enough; you will have to be very careful to commit longterm to this girl; she sounds unstable;
Take things slow; you might be crying now, but at least there is no child to worry about; you need somebody loving and caring; somebody that share your values and that shows respect.
Think very carefully before you allow this girl to continue hurting you with her impulsive behavior.
I am sure you are a wise and mature person; concentrate on the good things in your life; concentrate on your music talent.
Take good care and always keep SMILING.
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reader, porkchop.xo  +, writes (20 October 2008):
 Aww! I hope you're feeling better! :(It sounds to me like your girlfriend is immature. She has a problem and takes it out on other people. She needs to stop pointing fingers and resolve the problem which is her. Calling you 33 times and hanging up each time because she is angry is immature. You don't deserve that! I know you love her, but she needs to wake up and realize blaming other people (ie taking out her problems on other people) is not right, and you should not allow her to do so. Next time she starts doing it, confront her and ask what the issue has to do with you? Did you cause her to be angry? if no, then tell her you would love to talk with her about the problem, but you will not tolerate her speaking to you disrespectfully (ie putting the blame on you). Hope everything works out for you :)
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