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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My girlfriend has never had an orgasm.. Not just with me, but ever in her life.I have had multiple sexual partners in my past and I never had a problem giving those girls an orgasm, my girlfriend has also had multiple sexual partners in the past, and she said that none of them were able to give her an orgasm.At first I was hoping that she wasn't just saying that to make up for my lack of ability to give her one (even though I never had a problem giving my past partners one) but she honestly has never had one, in her entire life!No guy has ever been able to give her one and now while having sex I am almost only worried about doing whatever pleases her most, because I want to be the one that does. I tell her I am willing to do anything she wants, and after a while she almost just gets frustrated because she is tired of trying and she thinks she will never get one.I guess what I am asking is, is it possible for someone to just not be able to get an orgasm or has anyone had or heard of a girl not being able to have one? Any tips, advice, anything... I guess I am just curious to know what other people think about this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008): Hi,
Women are more complex than men - but it still can be easy to get women orgasm. Try this blog for women with instructional videos and texts
http://howtogivefemaleorgasms.com/
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): I was 24 when I had my first orgasm. The thing that made the difference is that I considered the guy to be my best friend and trusted him completely - how close is the relationship between you and your girlfriend? Maybe you need to work on creating more intimacy in the relationship..
Likewise, you focusing so much attention on it making her focus on it and its prob stressing her out which is not going to make her orgasm. So I think that instead of focusing so much on the act of her coming (which can be considered kind of a self thing - you wanting validation from her on your performace, I know its possible for to view it that way), you should focus more on trying to find out what makes her feel good sexually and non sexually(where she likes to be massaged, how she likes her hair stroked, etc) not necessarily what gets her off and more intimate in real life. For a lot of women, the ability to orgasm is more psychological than physical, but the suggestions above should help.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (7 August 2008):
 Anything is possible, including a psychological or physical reason that a woman has yet to orgasm, but a total inability to release this way would be extremely unlikely. In my opinion, it is more probable that she has trouble reaching a state of relaxation and release because she is nervous, scared of pregnancy, stressed out or feels that it is wrong. There can be many reasons that anyone, or either gender, is too uncomfortable with sexual activity, especially at a young age.
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