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writes:So me and my gf been together almost 2 years. I really love her. But there is one situation that really bothers me. Let's rewind back to when we had been dating almost 5 months.I was her 6th guy and I was the first to hit it right and give her orgasm after orgasm. Not only did I show her endurance she never knew before lasting and going at it for at least 45min to an hour every time we had sexSo one night I ask if she would so kindly return the favor for the first time and she said yes as expected. So she falls asleep on me. I ask her again 4 more occasions over the next couple weeks after that and she did the same thing. I had a strange feeling because she did this 5 times but she said she had never gone down on a guy for more than a minute or two.Like three months later she finally admits one guy that she left out of her sexual history report and actually the guy lived in her neighborhood and was over her neighbors house when we were there and I had asked if anything went down between her and him and she said no.So like in the 8th month she admits to having had gone down on him. She tried to lie and claim that she only did it for like 5 minutes.I knew she was lying because she told me that he finished himself which would not make sense plus she said that they watched a movie and she did it while it was playing. So she admitted that it was longer than 5 mins. Plus usually if a guy has to finish himself it is cuz the girl couldn't and I am sure she probably tried for as long as the guy was wanting her to cuz she would be worried that the guy would be pissed at her for not trying longer.Plus one day she told me that it was half the movie time was how long she did it for but then she tried saying she was joking probably because she saw the look on my face.But she would not joke like that ever so i busted her on that. My concern is why she could blow a guy that she was not even dating and for like 45 minutes to an hour but she just could not for me. All I ever got was a 1 minute tease. But she says she wants to be with me forever. I was so shocked when I found this stuff out because she seemed so obsessed with me and like I had the impression that she was VERY into me.And when she left me with blue balls those 5 nights I had a feeling like she had to have had given head a lot to an ex or a fuckaround buddy.But she claims that it was one time with this guy.Hard to believe though cuz I think that she gets reminded of giving him head when she tries on me but that was "one time" she says.I asked her why she did it even tho She had told me she at one time thought he was hot.She says she was desperate.If she was willing to do that for him when they were not even dating then how the fuck am I supposed to believe it was only once.She told me that she couldn't give me head because my dick was too long. But a month or so later I get her to admit that the guy she blew for like an hour was like at least an inch or so longer than me she said. what a dirty lie.Of course I would not have stayed in the relationship had I known these things a lot sooner like the first 3-5 months. Its different finding this out after dating almost a year.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHer not going down on me is NOT what the fuss is about. I am just dissappointed because she felt the need to hide
one piece of her sexual past from me and then later out of the blue inform me suddenly which makes me feel insecure. And those of you who are saying that I come off sounding like a jerk, you are obviously confusing the tone and purpose of this thread. I do not get on her case or anything about not giving me oral. In fact I would feel insecure about letting her go down anyhow. I just wanted some insight as to "why" or what reasoning could she have to not return the favor just one time considering its not asking much and if she really loves me and wants to spend her life with me I would think she would under normal circumstances enjoy pleasing me after all I pay the bills, and I have made some big sacrifices for her. But its no big deal I have a good idea what her reasons are after thinking it over. Thanks Anyways,
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2009): Judging someone for their sexual choices is a lot fairer than most things everyone judges potential partners for every single day. Family wealth, ethnicity, attractiveness, height, hair color, age, etc.
I wonder what would the responses wound be to a woman complaining that her new husband totally lied about his background & wealth & education all through the courtship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2009): I get really frustrated sometimes, by the gentlemen on this website who idealize their girl as some pure flower virgin like that's the only way they can look at their girl as desirable, and their minds are totally blown when they find the image of themselves as special cherry poppers tarnished by a woman's past. Have you gone down on a woman before this current gf? was it for a while? BOTH of you have sexual pasts. I don't know why you have to act like the epicenter of moral/sexual virtuosity about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009): well MAYBE she felt PRESSURED by u & maybe YOU are the one provoking the so called "lies" out of her. MAYBE she feels exactly the same way about u now that u acted like that. u should rly think before u speak and question your GF like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009): "Of course I would not have stayed in the relationship had I known these things a lot sooner like the first 3-5 months."
You strike me as such an jerk. If you had known that your gf at one point went down on a man at one point in her life but wont do it on you you'd dump her? Thats so low. Try to get it into your head that perhaps she's being honest, thought it was a horrible experience, doesn't ever want to do it again?? Perhaps she thought it was extremely humiliating to do that for a guy who she was interested in but who didn't show her any respect?
Clearly, she's not into giving head. And no, it doesnt work like this "she did it once and hated it so she should do it again with me".
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (11 December 2009):
If ur getting laid dude why do u need her mouth down there? I am a guy and I can tell you I wud much rather be inside a girl than have her mouth on that part of my body. But by all means if its that important to u simply stop giving her oral but beware she may stop putting out if u do that, be happy getting laid
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (11 December 2009):
 If she doesn't enjoy blowing you, I seriously don't think she did it to some other guy for an hour. I think the fact that the guy finished himself is actually proof that she actually didn't blow him that long. I can tell you from personal experience that I'm not going to continue to go down on a guy who is not cumming for 45 minutes--he'll have to finish the job himself or we have to move on to other things.
Are you mad because she didn't tell you everything about her sexual past (information she is not required to tell you unless she has a STD, by the way) or are you mad because she won't give you a blowjob? Her story probably keeps changing because you keep pressing the issue, and truthfully, there's no answer she can give you that will make you happy. THAT'S WHY YOU NEVER ASK THESE KINDS OF QUESTIONS!!!
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