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writes:me and my girlfriend have been going out for almost 3 months now and everything is great i couldn't be happier. now two things id like advice onnumber one when im not with her for a few days which has been regular as I go to my mums who lives an hour away for a few days and when she is also "on" I get very horny and have to masterbate. but ive gone off of porn and I have started using pictures of my girlfriend with her in tops that show cleavage. shes not comfortable about her body as shes not skinny but i like that abut her i love her body and id ask her for private pictures for my pleasure but i dont know how to come about it without feelig gross, id also send her some of me if she wanted and im not the guy to share them with anyone even if i was mad or we broke up id never go that low to get back at someone, i dont want to force her and if she says no id drop it and id let her know that id just want to appreciate her when shes not with me.number twoas i said before shes a little insecure about her body and when we have sex its difficult as we have only ever done 2 positions and id like to have her on top she said shed be willing to try it and we tried it once but something went wrong idk what i think she couldnt put me in and she sort of got all embarressed and got annoyed after we finished as we did another position to finish i comforted her and said it was okay we can always try again when she was more comfortable. what else could i do to help her with this? shes determined to do it but when it gets to it something worries her and we do something else and im worried to ask ow incase shegets nervous or freaks out i want to help her through it as its really bugging her.
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reader, Aunty Babbit +, writes (2 September 2013):
 You sound like a nice guy and your relationship sounds good.
If your g/f has body image issues all you can do is reassure her how attractive you find her. Tell her stuff like you no longer use porn because you find her sexier than anything in a magazine.
If she want's to change aspects of her body ie diet and exercise, support and encourage her whilst constantly praising her efforts.
With reference to your other question regarding asking her to pose for intimate pictures, I can see your intentions are honourable but trust me, it will go down like a pork pie at a Bar Mitzvah!
Maybe further down the line when she feels more comfortable with you and her body you could raise the subject but I think so early on in a relationship especially when your g/f does have concerns about her body would not be good idea.
I hope this helps AB x
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (30 August 2013):
 HI
All you can do about her body issues right now is continue to compliment her, let her know how sexy YOU think she looks, and that it don't matter what anyone else thinks as she is perfect for you. In regards to the photo sharing I wouldn't ask for anything pornographic, it will only make her feel cheap and more conscious about her body issues. Instead is there a dress, or an outfit you really like her in that makes you get turned on? if so ask her for a picture of her wearing it, the rest use your imagination. It's still early days in the relationship, in time she will feel more relaxed and your sex life will get much better.
Good Luck
Mandy x
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