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writes:Hi,I'm a very good looking guy,I'm the lead guitarist for the university,I also play for the college football ..don't juge I'm saying this because I have a secret which will make people think I'm fakee..I always got the women I wanted and now I'm finally with a woman I want but I have a problem I suffer from alopecia and I wear a wig and noone knows abt this except my family..and yesterday I shared it with my girlfriend,my biggest insecurity the reason I would always be unhappy!but my girlfriend has started behaving different ever since,like the way she looks at me now is 'not how she used to',its like 'disgust'..and I told her I'm going to tell my friends about it and she dint say anything:( what do I do? I hid this from the world now I want to tell everyone the truth but after her reaction I'm scared..
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reader, LucilleLucie +, writes (11 March 2013):
 She is wrong for that :/
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (11 March 2013):
 IF your "Girlfriend" reacts so negatively to your condition...... then she isn't much of a "friend", is she?????
Don't apologize for who you are.... with all your foibles and shortcomings... and don't "settle" for a girl who will like you only if you meet HER exacting standards......
Good luck...
P.S. One of the guys on my tennis team (he's bald) said that God only made a few "perfect" heads... and He covered the rest with hair!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2013): She probably just doesn't know what to say for the best. I wouldn't know how to react either, and not because I had a problem with it, but because it's an unusual situation that she probably hasn't come across before so there is no 'standard' reply. Just give her time and try not to worry too much - she likes you so something like being bald shouldn't be an issue at all. It's no big deal. Maybe it's just because you are hypersensitive about it do you worry everyone will be?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2013): Some people pin a lot in appearances, especially nowadays . Media says we have to look a certain way, wear certain clothes, drink certain drinks etc . And as you state your a good looking guy, sing in a band, play football etc so you come across as the whole package. Your girl has now found out that, what she thought she was getting she ain't . Being honest it shouldn't be the outer package that she should be favouring but the whole you.. Give her time to adjust I agree with the week suggestion to work it through.I personally don't think it's time to tell your friends your at college and most guys act like asses there.. They will end up taking the Michael and as your are already self conscious I don't think this is a wise move . Wait and see what she says . You are still the same guy with hair or without. She should be able to look further than the hair on your head, then she not worth your time or worry . Take care
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (10 March 2013):
 How long have you been with her? How many days have passed since you told her?
Give her a moment to react. Doesn't sound like she's reacting at all, nor positive nor negative. Yet you are insecure, so you interpret it as a negative reaction. But wait a bit still, because I don't think she's given you her opinion on the matter yet. She's still thinking and processing.
And why wouldn't she think about this carefully? It's a bit of a shock after all, something you thought was natural isn't. And it's most likely not a situation she's been in before, so she doesn't know how she feels about it and needs to figure out how she feels about it. And that can take a little bit of time. I'd say give her a week.
And after all, she hasn't dumped you, so you shouldn't jump the gun and think she's disgusted with you.
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