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writes: My girlfriend has a guy friend, I have no problem with this. But this guy is stepping on my toes. Always buying things for her, writing poems, etc. It feels like he's moving in on my territory. I try not to feel pressured. I don't want to be possessive. I feel like I constantly have to one up him, and I hate it. I really love this girl and don't want to lose her to anything.Today I saw I text asking if she wanted to do something, fair enough. But then he ended it with saying, "You decide beautiful." Now he's calling her beautiful?! I don't know if I should slap him (I never would, figure of speech I guess) or blow it off. Any ideas? Am I being stupid?
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reader, Some Random Guy +, writes (26 September 2006):
Some Random Guy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI dig your guys' answers. Cause I did just that today. I found out he did try to pull something, and she denied him. And when it happened she was wondering if we were going to work out. I'm pissed that he tried something. I'd really like to slap him. But I'm so much more stoked that she turned him down. Great advice. Thanks.
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reader, Toria +, writes (25 September 2006):
 I would talk to her and tell her how his behaviour towards her is making you feel, if she loves you she will talk to him and ask him to calm it down.
I had a friend who was the same way with me and because we was just friends I didn't realise what effect this was having on my boyfriend until he mentioned it and my friend understood when I told him to calm down.
As for competing with him with presents and stuff I would just be yourself and not try to compete with him as your girlfriend is with you because she loves you not him and you competing with him is not being yourself, the person she feel in love with.
Good luck :o)
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reader, deamon +, writes (25 September 2006):
 i dont think u are being stupid that is a very big concern !!! and well as far as i can tell u if u love her then maybe u should take this guy out for a man-to-man discussion !!! i have been with my G/F for 5 years and well i have had this problem before !!! i did nothing i just stood back and let it happen and we wound up breaking up and she went with him !!! about 2 months went by and she was crawling back to me talking bout how he was hitting her and this and that !!! and well i took her back !!! ofcoarse thats my stupidity but hey i love her !!! as for the other guys i would suggest getting togather or talking on phone or internet and telling him u dont like what he is doing and ask him to stop nicely !!! and well ofcoarse u should open up to her and tell her that u dont like what is going on between them !!! my best advice is to tell them both how u feel about this !!!
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