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30-35,
*orpheus
writes:So i went out with this girl for 5 months. She was great and we thought we were in love. Then she broke up with me. I still have feelings for her and she doesnt even want to know about me anymore. I cant get her out of my mind. Shold i let her go or try to win her back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2008): Leave her be, and heal, hun. This is a very important skill for you to learn, in the dating world of teenagers. It's preparing you for life ahead. You will have many more gf's, more happy times and yes, more heartache in the years ahead of you..
If she broke up with you and she has moved on, why bother trying to win back someone, who doesn't want to know you anymore? I don't get it. You say you want her back because 'you still have feelings' for her. Then that tells me, getting her back is only about what YOU want and not what she wants. And that is not love, dear. If you loved her, you would let her go and allow her to find her own happiness. Love is giving others the right to live as they want, even when it hurts like hell.
My suggestion is ...accept the break up and try hard to recover. And remember, your feelings are just feelings...but you need to engage your rationale here and realize she has the right to do what she wants. In time, when you get through this, start dating again. Don't allow this to embitter you. This is the life of an adolescent...you date, you break up and you learn very important life lessons along the way. Leave her alone and begin healing yourself, hun. Perhaps in time, you and she can be friends again...but recover first. Move on and be good to yourself. Take care
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (30 July 2008):
Well it depends why she dumped you. If you can convince her that those reasons aren't valid because you've changed or whatever it takes then yes you could win her back.
If she just doesn't love you then you have to move on.
Good Luck!! xx
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