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writes:Hey everyone,I have been a pretty shy guy,not because of any insecurities but that's me! I met this bold outspoken girl who brought me out my shell and I summed up courage and asked her out and she said 'ok' but we weren't exclusive and later on she met my family,my older brother who just the opposite of me(this happened 3 years ago) and yes she dumped me for my brother..I was left shattered!and broken..the thanksgiving and christmas were soo awkward cuz I wasn't over her,I was in love with her,I thought I wld be but I'm not,only 3 days ago she and my brother tell me they are getting engaged and getting married soon!I just think to myself she coudlnt even find me worth dating and my brother is 'husband material'..how do I get over her?
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reader, Cantremember  +, writes (10 March 2013):
I must honestly say I don't understand why others comment on this being an issue of rejection and how to get over it. This has (to me) very little to do with the girl. It's all about the brother. That's just something brothers don't do. I would not go to family gatherings again if it was me. I wouldn't even speak to my brother again. Missing out on the girl, meh. But being betrayed by my brother? Unforgivable in my book.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (10 March 2013):
It's easy to get over rejection once you learn to look at it for what it is. Right now you're thinking "how could she do this to me, she didn't want to date me but she wants to marry my brother, who could ever love me? What's wrong with me?"
It's not about that. It's about COMPATIBILITY. You were not right for her, she was not right for you.
The perfect woman to you may be a nightmare to someone else. Just be thankful that she realized it now so you are free to find your perfect person. Because even if you thought she was you were just ignoring the signs.
I'm saying this all from experience. Stop beating yourself up about it. She wasn't perfect by any means.
One more thing to add. Rejection can warp your sense of reality. It can make you feel she was "the one" and that you can't live without her. Well, you were doing fine before her, and you'll do fine after.
Good luck!
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