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writes:I have had a GF for almost 3yrs, she is 34 and I'm 50 but the sex has almost complete stopped. If I pursue it she will participate and I make sure she is always taken care of first and normally 2X. And although this is not a proff, she sounds like it is very satisfying. All that said, she has told me that a past boyfriend was better than me, larger in size.. Now she also said that she has been with around 35 guys. I guess I should feel good about coming in 2nd but it continues to haunt me. Especially since our sex life has decreased. When I bring it up she admits that she is to blame. She has never bneen aggressive in bed and makes me contol the whole situation which then makes me feel further that she is not into it. I obviously can't do anythin about size which I what I believe she whats. She does say that it was amazing but if that were the case why no interest? Any thouighs would be appreciated.. thx2nd Question:One other aspect, my GF doesn't communicate regarding sex. She says its good and feels that's enough. Am I being overly insure to want more details. I want to now if I rocked her world or if I need to change something, She rarely provided direction or takes charge. I know she likes me to be in control and direct the positions and acts but again, is this a sign that she really isn't into it: Just curious as to what the community would say.Thanks.3rd Question:So I am hoping some of the guys or ladies can assist with this. I'm 50 and have never had an issue with getting an erection and keeping it for a long time. The problem is, often I am unable to reach orgasm. It's embarrassing and also is followed by "Yeah it still felt great I just don't always get there". Also, this is without any alcohol or meds that would interfere. Has anyone had experience with this on a semi frequent basis. I would guess that It doesn't happen about 30% of the time..Thank you,
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2017): 3th Q first you know what they say about women that they fake it so can men 2nd I have not much experance with women as I AM STILL WITH MY FIRST LOVE ans she doesn't communicate much regarding sex.1st the big one THE BEST HELP i CAN GIVE TO YOU ON THIS IS TELL YOU WHAT I FIND WORKS. give her all the love you got be extra kind to her outside the bedroom there are so many ways to be romantic , like do the washup, give her a hand in her jobs show her you care and you will not keep up to her in bed
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reader, Phil052  +, writes (25 June 2017):
 With regard to your third question, I'm a male of similar age to you and have found over the past two years that I quite often don't reach orgasm through sex. It feels great but I don't always get there. If that happens and I'm exhausted, we stop, I lie back, and my wife uses her hands or mouth to bring me to climax. I think it becomes more common for men of our age. Hopefully your girlfriend will be happy to bring you to orgasm by other methods if sex isn't taking you there.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (25 June 2017):
 In term she of your body, you need to speak to a doctor and see what they suggest.
As for your girlfriend, there are a few possible reasons:
- stress
- health issue
- naturally low libido
- losing interest in the relationship
- losing interest in you
How is the relationship? Do you go on dates? Do you communicate well? Have you spoken about the future? You're 50 and unmarried (with no children?), she's 34 and unmarried (with no children?). It's possible, but unlikely that she doesn't want at least one of those things and you haven't said anything about progressing this relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2017): So just to clarify , you are concerned that she doesn't always orgssm from intercourse which is EXTREMELY commen for women yet you also don't orgssm around 30 percent of the time ? You feel insecure that she doesn't orgasm all the time , yet she is labelled as not showing enough interest?
Yes this sounds like a pretty typical view of how men expect to be handled like their feelings are all that matters when it comes to sex . Question for you ? How much porn and masterbation is happening for you around the times you are not ejaculating ?
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