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*odo85
writes:These days we discussed a lot about our relationship but I couldn't make her understand that I'm trying to change, trying to be the man she's been waiting for. The problem is she doesn't believe in long distance relationship, she told me she needs a boyfriend who can be beside her and meet sometimes. I know I had a lot of mistakes before and I've explained to her already and I'm realizing everything now, facing all the situation for making better, brighter future for her, this is what I told her. But she's afraid she'll get hurt again and most importantly she doesn't have confidence in long distance relationship. How can I make her to believe in me and how to make her understand that long distance relationship can be good and it has benefit? I tried to ask her to come on skype before so that we can do video chat but she said it's no use, she wants to see me in real life not through webcam. I also told her long distance relationship is hard but we can work it out together but she still doesn't believe, I'm trying to send her messages, call her and something like this. I'm in another country and don't know when I can be back to her, what I've told her I need 2 years time to be a man she's been waiting for and if there's a chance then I'll come for a visit. We're pretty far away from each other, actually not that really far, just a couple of hours away but due to my mistakes before, my parents don't let me to go back, maybe later when I prove to them that I can stand on my own feet and can decide to good way. I've also asked my girlfriend to come here but she said she doesn't want, I can buy her plane ticket but still no. Please help me! What should I do? How to make her understand that I really want this relationship, don't wanna leave her and make her understand that there's a hope? We haven't seen each other for about like 2 months and I'm so in depression now. She doesn't call me or text me often like before now... But there was one time I didn't contact her for 2 days and she asked me why I didn't contact her, I don't miss her now or what? Am I seeing others now? I'm really confused, she's giving me mix signal even if we didn't break up yet but she told me before there's a guy she wanted to know more but I don't know about now. She said she started to hate him because she found out he's concentrating on his stuffs so much. Thanks so much if you can help me out!
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reader, Dodo85 +, writes (6 April 2011):
Dodo85 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks!One thing i know about them is they're very sensitive and emotional. I think u can wait for several days and ask ur girlfriend why she didn't contact u and maybe tell her it's not going to work like this, so make her decide continue or break up, if continue then she needs to share everything what she has and what she's doing.... Actually i think one thing really works if u're gonna send her a message saying that u have something to tell her so call u as soon as she can. From there u can continue to talk about ur relationship with her. I don't take any medicine, just trying to have faith and trust
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reader, honestman  +, writes (6 April 2011):
Sorry, I wrote it wrong.What I wanted to say, is that 5 days ago she STOPPED any contact with me...Before that, we talked almost every day through skype.She still has not talked to me.I am in a very deep despair. "I seriously don't know why women can't see we're so in love with them and trying our best to give them what we can, just need patience."Man, I totally agree with you. I have give my girlfriend all of my time, patience, love, money, everything. I really feel betrayed by her not talking to me. I feel like a fool.By the way, I've been taking medidince to overcome my depression, and so far, so good. I still have emotional obstacles to overcome.Long distance relationship are very painful.I wish you luck man!
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reader, Dodo85 +, writes (6 April 2011):
Dodo85 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLike u said u're chatting everyday then what do u mean by a couple of days ago she started to talk to u again? Or u mean she stopped talking to u online then after several days later she talked to u again? I seriously don't know why women can't see we're so in love with them and trying our best to give them what we can, just need patience....
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reader, honestman +, writes (5 April 2011):
I don't know what to tell you.
I have been 6 months without seeing my girlfriend.
We are in a long distance relationship.
I'm also very depressed [but now I'm taking meds to overcome it]. We do chat every day, but a couple of days ago she started talking to me and I'm in deep pain.
Long distance relationship are very hard
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