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writes: You must get this question alot but my girlfriend is no longer interested in sex. We are both 24 and since having a baby (18 month boy) our sex life has gone down hill and we only have sex on average once a fortnight, what fustrates me is that she really enjoys it when we do it but its the getting her to do it thats the problem. I dont like hassleing her but its came to that and we argue about it all the time and its starting to cause other problems in our relationship like lack of trust. My girlfriend says that she just doesn't feel sexual but she wants to cos we had a really good sex life once. Is there any way we can get it back?
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reader, reece1234 +, writes (1 January 2007):
reece1234 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answer, i have tried all these things you suggested as i feel im a quite (ahem) sensitive boyfriend, i aint really a wham bam... sleep kinda man anyway and ive tried the no pressure approach too. We talk about it but there just seems to be no answer, she aint interested in sex with me or anyone else. Also she hasn't lost her figure she looks as good as she did when i met her an i think she knows it too.
Cheers again for ur answer have a good 2007.
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reader, blondebabygurl +, writes (1 January 2007):
 hiya
there are different reasons why this could be!
the first one is.. she could of put on weight and dosent want you to see her naked and thinks that you might not like her as much as you did before and is worried about you cheating because she dosent feel comfortable with her self!
the other reason might be because her emotions and hormones are playing up or she could even be depressed about some thing, this may not be the reason but im just thinking of things that it could be too help you!
i dont know about your girlfriend but i like to have affection and when my bf just wants to have sex with no affection then it puts me off quite abit a girl needs to feel special and wanted, just for example when she is doing washing up then walk up behind her and kiss her and cuddle her or something of the same sort make her feel that you still are attracted too her and that its not just sex that you want!
do something romantic and dont do it just because when you get too bed you want to have sex build it up gradually like.. cook her a nice meal with candles and then have a cuddle on the couch or something and then when you get too bed dont even think about sex just think about how she is feeling! and eventually she will want it more than you! the worst thing a women can feel is that her bf/ husband just takes notice of her when he wants sex!
good luck for you and her and the baby all the best for 2007 x x
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