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writes: I have been with my girlfriend for over 8 months now and after about 5 months ish i have found her more annoying than when i first met her. Just little things like how she speaks and how she acts around her mum etc make me cringe and annoy me.Whenever I go round too her house she just lies on her bed and wants me too as well and explains that 'there is nothing too do in my house' she gets herself all tired and i end up sitting in her room for hours on end doing nothing. My question too that is 'why has she not thought or planned what to do before I see her?' etc etc.She also is quite immature, when i first went out with her I thought she was a very mature girl. She is younger than me however she is a year and a half you but she acts like a 12 year old sometimes and i feel embarassed when i am with her sometimes.I just feel a lack of entusiasm with my relationship. It has died down a bit in my opinion after about the 6 month mark. I just need it lifting a bit i wish my girlfriend was a bit more interesting, she is a lovely girl etc but one can onyl sit through listening too the same thing each day. Its like 'dejavu' every day she repeats the same thing 'i cleaned this' 'i cleaned that, then i had a shower'.Im not being disrespectful but i just need to spice things up as i feel its slowlllyyy going down hill.
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reader, Granny +, writes (5 August 2006):
 Here are some suggestions. What are your hobbies? Does your GF share them, if not why not? Can you share hers? Can you find a sport you both like to follow in the newspapers, radio or TV? Play a sport together, eg basketball, frisbee or badminton. Go swimming. Who has the PC you mailed us with? You can share music/videos, news and jokes there. Or play cards, dominoes. Do neither of your families have any board games like chess or monopoly, even Trivial pusuit? Borrow some from friends. Make your own board game. Jigsaw puzzles. Look at a map of your country and find names of towns to make you laugh. Play noughts and crosses. Write a poem for her and ask her to write one for you. Check out astronomy and look at the stars together instead of her ceiling. Learn foot massage. Take walks and learn about the history of your place. Write a play or a story together about places you want to visit or about people you would like to see or be. Make a story based on bits you read in a newspaper. You cut out a bit, stick it on a piece of paper, then it's her turn then your turn etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBecause im only 17 and shes 16 its hard because we cant drive yet and find travelling too places difficult. Some days i find really great and dont want too leave others i feel as though i'd ratehr go home and have more fun alone at home with my own hobbies.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (5 August 2006):
 I think you need to think whether you really want to be with this girl before you do anything. If you do, things can be worked on and you can put the effort in but if your feelings for her have died, the best thing to do for both of you is to get out.
If you want to be with her, you just want things to improve, you need to talk to her. Tell her everything you said on here and tell her things must change. You organise something or buy something nice for you both to do, don't wait for her to do it.
This happens in a lot of relationships: both of you get a bit too comfortable and don't make the effort you used to. But that can be sorted out with a bit of attention! Why not sort a surprise day or night out just for you two? Go into a hotel, go and visit somewhere nice. Do anything, just get out there and have fun together! It sounds to me like you're just bored but you can change that!
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2006): Sometimes I have those days with my boyf. when I'm bored, Perhaps like me she's expecting you to do something (i don't know how old you two are). You're both lying on the bed?... well maybe she's waiting for you to "occupy" her. Anyway she may think of you exactly the same way your thinking of her at the moment. Here's an idea if you're going to eachothers place then maybe you could arrange to actually "do" something.If you don't want to listen to "i cleaned this..." change the topic.I know some women who talk like this when they are bored and just want to talk a lot of women aren't quiet types and like to always be talking.
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (5 August 2006):
 Have YOU tried any input with regards to planning anything? You can't just arrive and sit around counting tufts in the carpet, knowing what was in store for you before you even went to her house! Why don't you take a book, if you have to stay in, or suggest something yourself, as it seems as though she won't plan anything. If you are to stay with her, and she won't take responsibility, then you will just have to discuss what it is you want to do..you are the one who is getting fed up, and bored people are BORING people - so do something about it!! Talk to her, she may be thinking the very same thing about YOU!! I don't wish to sound harsh, but she may have hidden depths, and interests just waiting to be discovered and brought to life!! Have fun, and take care!
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