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writes:I have been dating this girl for about 5 months or so and everything was going great. She decided to quit her job and go in to partnership with a client. Her new partner said he had plenty of money to carry them over the begining months and they would reap the benefits after. Anyway a couple of weeks ago she started getting a little distant and she told me that her checks where bouncing because her partner had no money. i offered to help her and she said no she will figure something out. She asked her mother for $ and she gave it to her. She also has a jerk of an ex-husband who constantly changes the days he takes the kids to try and mess up our weekends together. She told me that I am the only good thing that is going on in her life but she is being a little more distant with me now she told me she introverts to her self when she gets stressed. We spent this past weekend together and still plan on seeing each other. But I do not get the txt messages like I did from her and the phone calls are less frequent. I really am in love with this person and do not want to smoother her and keep asking what is wrong, but I do not know what to do. It is breaking my heart and I do not know what to do
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): Awww its sweet you care. How about you do something to take her mind off of everything and get her to SERIOUSLY unwind. Meet up over the weekend, try and get her to leave her mobile behind and just go somewhere; beach or to a forest for a picnic (I don't know I'm merely suggesting).
The key to everything is C.O.M.M.U.N.I.C.A.T.I.O.N. but of course you have to tread carefully. Try and get her to take her mind off work obviously but, explain why you are doing whatever you plan to do. Tell her your worried about her, you love her etc - thats not exactly smoothering her. Say you miss the texts...say you want her to help and that she should make a stand against her ex-husband.
Give her a hug and a kiss =D That always cheers someone up. If she doesn't want to talk about it thats fine, but if she does listen to her - obviously.
If this persists and things get worse, try and get her to see help. Stress can lead to all sorts of problems and just seeing a consuellor or doctor once or twice can help manage stress.
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