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*hbetheone
writes:hi me and my girlfriend have ben on a 2 week break so far we have ben together for almost 3 years. we have a house together because the plan was to get married and do the family thing, well i moved out for her. she said she needs to see if she is still in love with me but dosent know, she wants to see if she misses me the way she is supposed to. for the past two weeks she has ben a total different person, that i dont know. she has ben partying with her friends, and told me that she just wants to be single now, that if she was going to be with anyone it would be with me. i just keep getting mixed signals . one day she sends me things saying how much she loves me the next she dosent feel as if she is in love with me anymore. Her parents tell me the same thing , that she seems as if she dosent know what she wants. has this happened to anyone?
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reader, ohbetheone +, writes (7 September 2007):
ohbetheone is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell today I spoke with a mutual friend that we have. She spoke with my ex , and my ex will be calling me this weekend to set up a time to sit down and talk. My ex told our friend that its over, and that she knows a year from now she could have feelngs change and call me and and I could say all I want is friendship and thats a chance she is willing to take. It just still boggles my mind, we had such a great thing and she just didnt communicate when she was feeling unhappy , she just held it in till it was too late, and thats what got me here. Now I am lonely, without the love of my life, with only a little hope that her feelings with change its only been a short time.
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reader, ohbetheone +, writes (6 September 2007):
ohbetheone is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe both own the home, she is 26, and I am 24. She told me two days ago when I spoke with her that she is not in love with me. When I asked her if she was sure she said she dosent know. I said its a yes and no question and she said its not that easy. So I kept asking till she finally said she is not in love with me anymore. So I left the house , I know I shouldnt of pushed her, but I did. Well the next day I sent her a text saying sorry for pushing. Then she sent one back saying she was tired and to please not think that she dosent care because she does.People have told me two weeks isnt enough, so I have kept my space from her not talked or seen her. I will let it be for now and just go on with my life for now.I just dont know just so unsure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): Do you own the house? if yes, then you have a right to be there too. You are so lovely and understanding, she is so lucky to have you but it looks to me like she has tried to settle down too young. She has tasted the single life and likes it. Maybe she just wants a few months to get through this time and settle back down again, but dont hold your breath. Talk to her as much as possible but she sounds quite unsettled in her head and probably wont come out with the answers that you want to hear.
Set a time period in your head, say 6 months. If things aren't the way that you want them to be then i would move on, split the house up and go out and enjoy life - she if!
Take care and let me know how things turn out
xx.
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