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writes:Well ive been dating this girl for about 9 months.. but we have been friends for about 2 years. we had started talking more on being together because we knew we had more than a friendship. well the relationship seemed like it was going great.. being in love and just hqving fun. but as time went on some people were telling me that my girlfriend had been talking to someone.. an old friend of mine.. i asked her and she said they were lyng.. so i trusted her and left it alone... until the boy confronted me about it.. well i asked again and she still said it wasnt true, that all they ever did was talk... well finally peices started to come together and she knew she was caught... finally she told me she had been talking to this boy since day 1 in our relationship... but she had stopped talking to him when she relised we had something... now she is begging me to stay with her.. and that she is sorry.. and that everything is going to be ok! my question to everyone is... will it be ok? will i ever be able to trust again? and is this relationship worth saving?.. Reply to this Question
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reader, hendrick88 +, writes (4 March 2010):
hendrick88 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your answers it gave me direction.. i just need that same feeling back i used to have with her.. its gone and i hope it comes back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2010): Only you know if a relationship is worth saving. Unfortunately, you can never really know what's going on with someone else. Everyone has the capacity to lie, cheat, and break your heart. Often people who think they're with the love of their life find out heartbreaking secrets. Truly, even if you kept her in a cage 24/7 in a dungeon, you'd still worry that her thoughts might be on other men.
That being said, she has broken your trust and yet she has also admitted it. You either choose to believe her, forgive her, and move on - or you can break it off. Is it worth it to you?
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (4 March 2010):
 You have to trust her for your relationship to work, without trust the relationship wont last. It's reasonable to doubt someone if this is recent, but at some point you will have to let it go and begin to trust again.
Give it time, you will know if she is cheating on you by her actions when with you. For example she wont hold hands anymore or cant make your next date, it varies but there are subtle clues.
She is probably telling you the truth now and maybe didnt want to hurt you by telling you she had been communicating with the other guy in the past.
If its worth saving or not, only you can answer that.
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