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writes:My girlfriend gets abused by her parents, a lot. We live a million miles away from each other and there is nothing I can do to help her. I can only tell her things will be okay. and sometimes I don't know if I'm right. How can I help her more? I wanna be there for her as much as i can but its hard when were so far away from each other. so how can i help her more than i already am? i dont want her to get hurt anymore. Reply to this Question
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reader, Securityoutlaw +, writes (13 August 2009):
If your gf is getting physically abused the only thing you can do is to suggest her to seek help. She can go on her local police departments website and write to them via email and ask them (and if she wants to for the moment she can write to them without giving her real name and just start up a free email account) what steps and process she can go and apply. If she is 16-17 like I believe you are, she can opt to become an "adult" on her own and have the courts allow her to live on her own. If she has younger siblings that are also being abused she will have to do some more paper work and looking into it with the child services but as long as she can show that she can support herself and any siblings the courts could allow them to be placed under her custody and stay together. She should also try to get as much physical evidence of the abuse (pictures of the abuse, any time she had to go to the hospital because of an injury she should have the doctor forms showing that she went in and what date. I hope this helps but one of the most important things (and I've been with abusive family members so I know how she feels my father had a shot gun pointed at my head) is that you constantly show how much you love her and that you are going to stay on her side threw it all. Some abusive situations can make the child feel like they are doing something wrong or their exsistence should not be alive. I hope this helps and if she would like to just have someone (female) to chat about this please let me know and I will be there to email with her threw the hard times. I wish you both all the luck!
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