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writes:I am an 18 year old who just had his girlfriend over for about 6 hours and we had sex twice for about 15 minutes each. She is 16 and generally not very knowledgeable about things pertaining to sex. I mean no disrespect, but hey, you know when someone hasn't had sack-time. Anyway, after the second time, she said to me that she "doesn't feel like [she's] doing a good enough job," and, "is tired of not doing anything while [I] do all the work." We love each other very much, and we do in fact talk about these kinds of things, but she is very insecure and feels that I am disappointed in her even though I'm not, and I said this to her several times.What can I do or say to show her that I'm not upset or anything with her? I mean if anything, honestly, her lack of experience makes me feel better, knowing that she hasn't been with a billion other guys. I have told her this as well. It just seems that nothing I do can placate her and make her feel secure about herself.Help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2007): im a girl and i used to feel that same way about my boyfriend cuz i was a virgin and he wasn't. my boyfriend explained to me that it was ok because i do please him. He told me what i was doing was fine and he was going to teach me new things and how i can please him. i suggest u teach ur girlfriend and let her lead for a while.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionexcept... in a certain state that I live in, we have something called a 3 year rule, where you can have sexual relations with someone who is 3 years younger or older than you at that 18 year mark. after or before that, it doesn't really matter, but say if I was 19, it would still be okay for me to have sex with her, but if I was 20 it would not.
And anyway, whoever posted needs to seriously learn to read. I'm not mad that she complains, I'm worried because no matter what I say she thinks she is "useless."
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2007): I hope your realize 16 will get you 20 (years in prison). what you are admitting to is illegal, and if you dont want to hear her complaining about how bad she is at sex then maybe you should have sex with an adult not a child.
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