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writes:I have been dating my girlfriend for about 8 months and we get along very well. We both love each other and talk about moving in together. I am experiencing some problems with my girlfriend and her friendships with her ex boyfriends. She has had three relationships in the last four years with boyfriends that have all lived with her at some point. She has broken up with them but continues to talk to them/text and in one case sees an ex bf on a weekly basis. Two of these ex bf's she has had relationships with on and off several times.My girlfriend says that they are just friends and I am trying to be comfortable with that but here is what is happening and I would like some feedback on if this is acceptable?Her one ex bf talks to her sometimes 3-4 times a day. He lives within walking distance to her house and they both have dogs and take them for walks together one to three times a week. In the summer they go to a couple of dog parks which can take up to two hours to go and come back. He still has a key to her house and she calls on him to let her dogs out often while she is at work. My girlfriend maintains that they are just friends but the frequency of their communication and getting together is starting to weigh heavy on my thoughts.I have expressed to her that this bothers me from time to time. One time she said she called him up and told him that they need to cut back their interaction but she seems to fall back into a comfort zone with calling each other saveral times a day.My girfriend has another ex bf that sometimes calls at 6:00 A.M. She says that is when they can talk before he goes to work.I am looking forward to your thoughts?
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reader, MajorMinorscales +, writes (16 September 2009):
shes cheating. Sorry dude. Every guy shares that close feeling with their woman. and when they break up that feeling should too. But it looks like your woman still has that bound. so your not the closest one to her. Your more of her crowd now.It sucks, If she loved you she wouldn't need to keep that bound. since its several times a day. She could be talking to you! but shes sharing her time with an ex.She basically broke the bound u have with her, or you never had it since shes still sharing it with others.Does she have a myspace? or an email hell check her texts and i bet you he has said something about wanting her.
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reader, previasc96 +, writes (30 April 2008):
My GF talks to her ex. He actually still has feelings for her, but she has moved on with me. I know they were good friends before dating, so i don't mind if they remain friends. She doesn't hang out with him, just phone conversations. He live 4 hours away, so i'm not worried. Your main issue should be that your girl had 3 boyfriends in 4 years and got to the point of living with em. She moves real fast, and if you cannot keep up... she might leave you behind!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2007): Suggest to her that you should meet the ex's seen as she is v.good friends with them. Arrange to meet them at lunch one day then you can see what they are like. I'm still good friends with one of my ex's and i talk to him more than anyone, he's like my best friend. People can get close over a period of time and maybe she just wants to keep in touch with them. Just because they're ex's doesn't mean anything, if they weren't ex's you probably wouldn't be as botherd. I can understand how you feel because my husband use to get jelous with my friendship with my ex but when he met him he realised we are just good friends. Good look =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2007): Hi, it's a difficult one to deal with but trust comes into it.I am still in contact with my ex and we talk almost daily, he pops around here for coffee sometimes but there is nothing in it and I don't have any feelings for him in that way, so you see it is possible.Maybe if you do move in together the two of you will be spending more time together so she won't have as much free times on her hands to do these things?I suspect you will have to put up with it for a while, as you two get closer it may well die down.
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