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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi.My girlfriend split with me because her family was moving house, about 130 miles away from me, and didn't want our relationship to continue. We tried to talk after she moved away, but it was awkward. She sounded angry with me, so I decided that we wouldn't speak again. Or at least, until it gets easier.We split about 4 months ago now, and I've had a very emotional summer. I've found that I'm feeling miserable a little less often now... I can have about 3/4 days where I'm happy and not thinking about how I've been left behind, but then, the feelings seem to gather strength and hurt me again.Sometimes it needs to be brought on. I was on my computer last night, and opened a folder, unaware of what was inside. There in, was about a hundred photos of my ex. Some of just her, some of me and her, some of her and her friends.. you get the idea. This then started me thinking; "arrgh. I wonder if she is with somebody now" or "How could I go from being her one and only, to nothing"Not sure what to do. I wish I could feel upbeat about things more often, without getting dragged down. Can you help me?
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (23 September 2007):
 she did the right thing in not giving you false hope that she was going to try and continue the relationship when she knew it wouldn't be simple.
youhave done great in moving on and you need to focus on that, whatever she is doing now, she's not thinking about you. you need to get things that remind her of you and put them away, out of sight, out of mind.
don't forget about the times you had together but forget about her now.
in time, little things won't matter and you'll not feel so low when you remember her and that's when you know you've moved on completely.
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2007): i have been betrayed by women and friends alike. I know it is easier to remember the awful things more, and how the awful things wouldn't let the good things be important enough, when you get rid of all the pictures. when i was betrayed for the last time from a guy i trusted more than anyone, i deleted him from every single address book, contact list, photo album, everything, when the random picture is seen now and then it's not so hard. bottom line is this chick is gone. She wants nothing to do with you for some reason and it'll be harder for you to heal with the next girl you meet if you still have all that stuff. I really should have pictures of my dead grandmother, but the friend that strait up let me down over and over, i have no healthy reason to remember.
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