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writes: Ive been going out with my gf for 3 months, we are both 20. Last week she went to a club and got incredibly drunk, met her ex bf, went home to his house, slept with him, and came home the next day. When she rang me to tell me what had happened i flipped out.I am so upset with her, and shes upset too, ive never heard her more upset before. She said she was so drunk she doesnt even remember how it happened.Ive spoken to her lots since, and because i love her so much, and she loves me, weve sorted it out, but i was SO close to leaving her. I dont know what to do though. We both love each other so much, and i dont know what i'd do without her, but ive lost so much respect in her, and a LOT of trust. I keep getting mental images in my head and it upsets me.She briefly met up with him the other day and they agreed to stay away from each other.I dont know what im asking here relly, im just so upset by the whole thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2006): Leave her, for your sanity. I've been married for 15 years to someone who was infatuated with her ex. I think she's been faithful since but it doesn't really matter, the images never go away and you walk a tightrope of love/hate.
I stay with her for the kids sake, but she doesn't realize she finished us before we'd really got started.
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reader, lovelikethis +, writes (12 December 2006):
leave her. 3 months, imagine in 10 years when you have 3 kids together and a house. she goes out and gets drunk and sleeps with another guy, how will you feel then? she only sounds very sorry because she is desperate. she knows that her ex doesn't want her, and why did they have to meet to agree to stay away from eachother? there is obviously something else that you are unaware of. sure she was drunk, but it was not the alcohol that slept with her ex, it was her. alcohol just brings your self censorship down, like you say what you mean, and you DO what you mean. you obviously never forgave her and you never will. you can not have a relationship where she is always trying to prove her love. there should never be any doubts in your mind, nevermind the images of her sloppy pressed against another lover. find a real woman, one that doesn't have desperation on her breath, if you know what i mean.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2006): The girl will always be a cheat if she's done it once. I have never cheated on my fiance and I never will the same as he wouldnt do it to me because we've both had ex partners do it to us. She obviously likes her ex still and she wont stop seeing him if she loved you she wouldnt do it. Leave the relationship before you get hurt. she's not worth it.
Sophie Uk
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