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male
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writes:Hi, I have just seen this website and I'm looking for some help with the following situation.I am 22 years old and my girlfriend is 19. We have been together for 4 months now. She is the first girl I have ever loved and probably my only real meaningful relationship. When we are getting on we have a fantastic time however there are times when we don't (which i guess is the same for everyone) however.... we can be having a laugh and a joke one minute and the next she gets really mardy with me most of the time for no reason! She will clam up and wont talk to me about things, I try my best to resolve the situation which alot of the times involves me doing something I don't really want to but doing it to keep the peace and try and make her happy. I am a loving boyfriend and would do anything for her, I do pretty much everything she asks me to, although if I don't yet again she will go mardy with me?? (Immaturity, selfishness??) I really don't know? She goes out once a fortnight sometimes twice or even 3 times into town with friends to, sometimes I am waiting at hers when she gets back we will be okay then she will start saying hurtful things, some things that break my heart and we will argue. Sometimes she then just goes to sleep or I will go stay on the setee. Other times I will be at my house and she will ring me when she gets home early hours, we will talk and she will want me to come round, I say it's a bit late now, she will get mardy with me so I usually end up going round. The thing is that sometimes when I talk to her about the night before she can't remember saying them!!?? She is a pretty stressful person in everyday life and sometimes the littliest thing can set her off, however I'm the only one she seems to take things out on, she says it's because I'm the one that's there? We had been talking about moving in together, she want's me to move in with her, I want to move into a fresh place together so have been hesitant to move to hers. However last night she got in from town and put her facebook status as " Cindy, Is not sure what she want's anymore??" So I text her and said "Well I want you! Love you x" I did this because I knew it was directed at me, she called me we were talking then she sounded like she was in pain and the phone went dead. I went round and we were talking she said she didn't know what she wanted anymore and didn't think we were going anywhere because I wouldn't move in! Woke up this morning we have been together all day it has been fantastic, now she is talking about moving in with me?? I really don't get it?? I really do love this girl but was just looking for some advice or if people have been in this kind of situation with someone because they say love is blind I'm not sure about anything, all I know is when things are good they are great! However when she has these mood swings things are bad and I really start to question things, I just can't understand why she is like this when I do more for her than most people would in a realtionship and sometimes I think why do I bother!? Thanks for reading any advice or opinions would be appreciated. Thanks.
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reader, Kyle G  +, writes (22 February 2010):
There may be an underlying problem that is causing all this stress and anger. Try to communicate with her on how you feel, tell her you love her, and would love to help her solve any problem she may have, but you can't do anything about it if you don't know what it is. In the meantime try to take things slower and remember that just because you love this girl like no other, it doesn't mean she feels the same way... Remember, you are a person capable of great love and affection, and you don't deserve to be treated this way. Good luck.
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