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writes:my girlfriend of 10 month's as not given me a blow job in 3 week's is this normal? i've been down on her so many time's and she just given me hand job's.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (20 July 2006):
 Male anon, you must reallllyyyy lurrrvveee her....
Nice guy...
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2006): I've had about 5 blowjobs in the entire year I've been with my girlfriend and none of them were to orgasm. She just doesn't like it, which is quite ironic considering she was promiscuous during her teenage years and can't even remember all the cocks she's sucked. Count yourself lucky. Be glad your girlfriend isn't a reformed slut that doesn't put out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2006): 3 whole weeks, you poor poor man!
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reader, Leigh +, writes (19 July 2006):
it's always nice for a bit of give and take, but it's not a score sheet, you can't say - oh i've gone down on you 10 times, you've only gone down on me 5, can i have those 5 bj's now please?
sex does not work that way, maybe she just wasn't feeling horny, or she has other things going on in her life, or perhaps she just simply doesn't like doing it
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reader, katzkitten +, writes (18 July 2006):
 Tlk to her ask her to give you a bj. some times girls/women need prompts cos we dnt always no what u want. for example i suked my previous bf off twice the 1st tym i asked im if e wnted me 2 n da scnd i jus did it e sed da scnd tym turned im on more cos e wnt xpectin it but at the tym i wasnt sure he was enjoyin it so wat im sayin is...Keep er informed and dont b afraid to ask
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (18 July 2006):
 First off, don't worry about what's 'normal'. That implies that there's some industrial standard, and that you're trying to live up to someone else's qualification. Ask yourself what's average for YOU. That's all that's ever important.
So, was your girlfriend enthusiastic about giving blowjobs before this, or was she reluctant? Did she gradually lose interest, or was it sudden? Has she lost interest in all forms of sex, or just this?
Finally, have you talked to her about it?
It might be something really basic, like a need for a bit more hygiene from you. Maybe she'd just like you to shower first, for example. Or maybe she doesn't like the taste of semen and that's putting her off. Maybe she's totally uncomfortable with sex and feels she's being harassed into it. Maybe she's depressed about something else entirely and this is just a symptom.
Until you can talk with her about sex, you'll likely never know. So open up. And be sure that you don't make it an accusatory statement like "I'm sick of not getting blowjobs, so I'm not going down on you anymore!"
Try to make it an opening statement that's more sensitive, like: "I really miss the way you used to use your mouth. You're great at that..." Ask her if there's a problem that's put her off. Listen to the answer and try to work around it.
Compromise, OK? It's not always a simple thing to understand your girlfriend's needs, but remind yourself that you're dealing with a whole person, not just a blowjob-machine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2006): It just looks as if she's not to excited about sex yet. Some people have a high sex drive and some people have low sex drive. Or maybe she's just uncomfortable with the idea of Oral sex. Try giving her oral sex(If you haven't already) and ask her to return the favor. You know, the old "you do me, I'll do you" routine.
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reader, sxyredhdnc +, writes (18 July 2006):
 Maybe you should talk to her about it and find out why she isn't responding to you the way you are to her.maybe she was only doing it at first because you like it and she doesn't really like doing it herself.You will never know unless you open up to her and talk.communication is the key.Good luck
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