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writes: I've been with my Girlfriend for almost a year now, and we're very happy together.However, when we have sex most of the time she only wants to be 'underneath' and do it like we've done 100 times before, she doesn't want to try anything else. The isn't necessarily a problem, I'm just worried she's not getting the 'full deal'. She initiates sex probably 20% of the time, although we never rarely argue about when we're going to do it.I've asked if she'd like to try anything new, if she's happy with our sex life etc. She insists she has 'fun' and that out sex life is fine. I'm not concerned about myself really, but I'm worried about her. She never seems bothered one way or the other about sex, she doesn't seem to mind how good it is.What can I do? I feel she's not having a 'special' enough experience, but she insists she is. I have noticed that when she initiates she's more adventurous, but I don't know if it's relevant.We have sex about 5-6 times a week.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2006): cool ...one i think that if you two...try something diffrent ...like doggy style then it might work ...it works for my girl ...and she just loves it ....try it i think she might just love it
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2006): Tell her that you love it when she initiates sex and you find it incredibly sexy when she calls the shots in the bedroom. This may get her to try something new.Also, perhaps it is also worth considering her experiences. Sometimes girls are not as adventerous as boys and if you are her first she may not know too many other positions or feel comfortable on acting on her fantasies.Maybe there is a way to discuss some of the other positions with her - maybe write her a naughty note about you thinking of her on top of you or whatever and leave it for her. Maybe think about doing it outside the bedroom, suggest a place that the missionary position will just not work - up against a wall, in a car - whatever.Get creative and encourage her to try something new. you know her limits so don't push her into anything but maybe you can find a way to get her to try something new that she will love too.
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