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writes:I was seeking some guidance In regards to my relationship and study which I've just started. I started my first day of college yesterday, I loved the work but I don't like the college life because I'm too old, I'm a 24 year old woman sat with 16 year old boys who won't talk to me. I think part of me enrolled onto this course because I wanted my girlfriend to stop making me feel like crap for not pursuing college when I left school and so she would stop telling me I'm going no where in my life. I want to study but I wanted to take a home study course and take my A levels this year but that wasn't good enough for her so I pushed myself into an environment where I feel like I'm too old and unhappy, I also went to her old college which requires me travelling for 3 hours and when I get home I'm exhausted to tears. She's currently not speaking to me because I came home exhausted yesterday and rather than sit and talk about work with her, I fell asleep. I don't want to stay there but I feel that for the sake of keeping my relationship I've got to. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (2 October 2014):
 Stop doing things you don't want to do to please someone else.
If you want to do home study.. do it.
IF you want to go to school FOR YOU.. do it.
do not go to school to please her. a three hour commute one way is way too much on a regular basis.
what kind of a relationship do you have with this gf who does not love you or accept you for who you are and where you are in life...she is in love with a potential you. she will continue to be disappointed and blame you for her faults.
live your life to please yourself and if the gf does not like it, she can leave.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (2 October 2014):
 You should go to college because you want to go and you are excited about going! You shouldn't go to college because someone thinks you should go. Is your girlfriend paying for you to go? I rather doubt it, right? Why are you going to a college 3 hours away just because it was her college?? Of course you are tired! You are trying way too hard to please your girlfriend. What on earth are you going to get out of this??? Life is too short to be miserable! Do what makes YOU happy and don't do what you THINK will make others happy if its affecting your mental being. Long term you will find out your girlfriend isn't worth what you are doing if you aren't happy.
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