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writes:ok so this might sound kinda strange.my girlfriend has a very high sex drive i mean you could call her a sex nympho thats how she is, now the problem is that i just dont enjoy sex very much and have a very low sex drive.so my question is, what do i do? i mean i love my girlfriend more than anything else on this earth and i dont wanna tell her i dont want sex because then she will want me to be happy meaning she would be sad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): A female reader, anonymous said:
just tell her the thuth and i'm sure she will be okay
you shouldn't have to have sex if you don't want to
Yeah because that will make her so happy! She'll just go okay sure well we won't have sex then!!??? Just face it - if she has a high sex drive she will want to have sex. So if you want her to be happy you'll have to have sex. If this is such a problem then maybe things won't work out.
I agree with Waterloo Sunset - go and see the doctor. Don't just assume this is the way things are with you as there could be something causing your low interest in sex which can be rectified.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (22 November 2007):
 Either you accomdate her or she will eventually seek it elsewhere. If you can not accodate her, end the relationship and find someone more your speed.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): Talk to her about it. We are all not the same and when this happens it is best if the other person lets us know just what they want. Maybe you could do with a check out at the drs, not saying there is anything wrong but sometime there could be something going on with us that we dont know about and that could be sapping your sex drive. You should feel flattered that you turn her on and her sex drive is so high, but in the meantime, have a talk to her and maybe she has suspected yours is not quite as high as hers.
take care
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (22 November 2007):
Consider yourself lucky and start boosting your sex drive because once her's is down you'll be complaining of the opposite.In most couples i know,women can't match up to their partner's sexual urge.So enjoy it while it lasts.Spend more time on foreplay,if she knows what she's doing you'll forget you felt like this when you are in the bedroom.Sometimes it may be your fault she's so horny.Don't cuddle too much and go out more often and if she can be ok with it don't spend too much time with her all cuddled up.Do some social activities to het her mind off sex but poor you,you just have to give it to her at some time.Also hang out with common friends so that people's presence will reduce her time of thinking about sex alot.
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reader, pgissyd  +, writes (22 November 2007):
 Easy! Buy her a Vibrator for xmas, dont make her use it alone though, you help :D. You dont have to have sex to enjoy sex. if your sex drive is low you can still please her by doing other things, Like lots of foreply and you can try sex toys and so on.
Just use your imagination, whatever you do, dont keep denying her some sort of bedroom activity, all you will achieve if you do is makeing her feel unwanted and unattractive.
As I say, if you dont enjoy actual intercourse, try some other routes with her, experiment loads and go with the flow xxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): just tell her the thuth and i'm sure she will be okayyou shouldn't have to have sex if you don't want to
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reader, TheresaUNIQUEbebe +, writes (22 November 2007):
 That is crazy...So its true? I mean men can just not like sex, or is it cause you dont like the yukie feel of it or is it just hard work? I mean I can understand her point but I cried some night thinking that he was gettin else where, cause he just wasn't in to sex. I know you love her and want her to be happy but there is other ways by using your fingers and playing with her or biting on her nipples or something instead of the physical motion but still its kind of hard to explan when I am still tryin to understand. Its not bad as long as there is still effection an at least once a week kind of sexual contact lol well keep me in touch I would like to give you advice as well as u tell me how you feel because my boyfriend was a sex whore but now is calmed down. WEIRD..I am very attractive I mean I get hit on by alot of guys and no I dont let it get to the head but My boyfriend is so Handsome I know he can get anyone else but He only wants me...and I love him for that.
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