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36-40,
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writes:My girlfriend has this wierd thing about covering up her arms, even when it's really hot and during sex she always wants the light off or be under the covers. I thought she was shy about her body at first so i told her i didn't care what she looked like, but she got upset and i had no idea what about. Her mum and me get on well and i asked her what she thought it might be why she always covers up, then she told me that she had a real bad problem with cutting when she was at school because of bullying. She's 19 and her mum says she still goes to regular therapy. I want to help her thorugh whatever but i really have no idea how to talk to her about this. I've known people who do it ( self harm) for the hell of it and i've made fun of EMO's for it in front of her with no idea. Anyone offer any advice?Cheers
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (9 December 2007):
 When she is ready to tell you she will tell you self harming can be very hard to talk about with partners you just have to wait till she is ready to talk to you about this but dont push her just accpet that her scars are her battle scars memories of hard time she will open up when she is ready
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2007): if she is self harming herself i can understand maybe i am young but i know what an emo is and i used to self harm because i was and stil am being bullied at school. emo's only self harm if they are made upset and to take their mind off emotional pain. everyone hates it when they or people like them get made fun of. you should approach her when she is in a good mood and sitting down but if she doesnt want to talk about it dont pressurise her because it would most likely make her cry. if she talks to you about it if she feels ok then ask if you can go along to a therapy session with her. you should be really understanding to her and always check she is ok about talking about it.
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