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writes: Hi,I have been seeing my g/f for just over a year now. During that time I've been helping a girl on the internet with her problems, which my g/f doesn't know about. But the only problem is that the girl now wants to meet up with me and I want to meet her but I'm worried in case the other girl tries to kiss me or something so I hope you can help.
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reader, kittykat123 +, writes (27 July 2006):
My boyfriend has arranged to meet women off the internet that he has met online - just as friends. I can't tell you how unhappy and hurt I felt - still do. I know how your girlfriend would feel - give the online woman a miss. It's not worth it.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (19 July 2006):
 Hey there nice guy. How would YOU feel if she did this to you?
Now act accordingly....
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2006): Anonymous think how you would feel if your girlfriend was talking online to a guy and she was secretly planning on meeting up with him. I bet you would feel properly shit. I think there lies your answer.My ex-girlfriend once met up with a guy in secret for a "drink", I found out through a friend of a friend a year later and suffice to say the trust I had for her was no more. If you care about your girlfriend, you shouldn't even be thinking of doing this in secret. You obviously arn't ready to be in a commited relationship with someone.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (18 July 2006):
 Hmmm what were you hoping to acheive by meeting this girl off the internet ? Helping someone is one thing, but to then meet up with her, you clearly think that she has these sort of intentions towards you or you wouldnt have written on here. Im guessing that you think you cant control yourself if this girl does kiss you! If you go meeting a girl behind your girlfriends back and she later finds out, no matter how innocent it might be she will still feel betrayed. A year to be talking to someone else behind your girls back is a very long time, and i dont think that your intentions are that honourable, you maybe feel attracted to this other girl, and you feel a buzz because its a secret ? You have to be upfront and honest about this from the get go or you could lose your girlfriend. You have already broken a trust issue by not mentioning this other girl to your girlfriend anyway, and im guessing that you havent told her because shes not going to like it! By meeting a girl off the internet that your girlfriend doesnt know about is already heading for trouble.. what if you then too decide you want to take things further with this girl ? is that what your scared off that you have feelings for her maybe ? or do you think you will be tempted to cheat ? You need to tell your girlfriend straight off about this other girl, its not fair to be chatting to someone else without telling her, if its completely above board then you have nothing to worry about, but im guessing you started out maybe wanting a bit extra ? if you want things to work with your girlfriend you have to be honest or you dont stand a chance, especially if she finds out about this girl and you havent told her. A relationship is about trust, and respect and loving each other, so by not telling her you have already trodden into muddy waters! Dont meet this girl without your girlfriend knowing or it will end in tears, unless you have every intention of cheating on her and your not bothered either way! Many men think its okay to chat to other women on the internet without thier girls knowing.. well in some cases yes but in the main if your not going to be upfront and tell your girlfriend straight off it shows you are hiding something!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2006): Alright, I have to admit that I'm still bitter about a relationship I was in where I found out that my boyfriend had been inviting cute little hunnies off the internet to hang out. Suffice it to say, I felt very betrayed. I think your girlfriend would too in this case. If you really want to meet this other girl, at least be honest and tell your girlfriend that you're going to meet her. Maybe she can go with you, to watch over things. If you don't want your girlfriend to go with, and you don't want to tell her about you going, then you probably shouldn't go, else you might do something you'll regret. Hope everything works out okay. Good luck! Stay faithful!
~RJGirl
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