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writes:My relationship has just ended, i met my girl late feb 2012, seen her for the following 6 weeks then made it official in early april 2012, im 26 now but 25 at the time she was only 17, she was obsessed with me , very clingy always wanted to stay over , would jump at the chance to spend time with she was amazing , but it come at wrong time i was out of work but everything still went great, but after a bit the routine was the same , doing the same thing but we still loved each other so much she even got my name tattoed on her which i did try and talk her out of it, that was december 2012, then i met her family well her dad in march i had already met her mum earlier last year, and she adored me even the last time i seen her , and she would sayn over facebook txt how much she loved me every day until ab t 3 weeks ago i upset her because i was jst annoyed at something and said"are we done then/finished" which didnt mean , "so she said your finishing me??????" and all that day she blanked me all my msges for like 2 days , then said she needed space, out of know where she's never been like that if anything i felt we needed space because we talked to much every day and it was the same thing all the time, and i couldnt help my myself so i kept msging her for the following week, she only replied bluntly, and cold with "dont know what i want" that sort of thing, and because i kept msging her she said "sorry i cant do this know more" then said she felt bad and wanted to meet clear the air i ignored her for the day, and she wanted to talk and take things from there start a fresh, and a week later she deletes me off facebook because i said "ah forget waiting we need to talk now rather than later" and once she deletd me she said she dont feel the same about me anymore because i kept msging her and it put her off" ive tried everything for closure and to jst talk, she ingores my messages and she replies with "stop going on" this has ripped me apart inside, how can her feelings change so soon, and act like im nothing to her, when before this she loves me the world, her words, now im nothing to her? ive said all i could logically and emotionally but shes not interested, a loving /adorable/caring//amazing girl to what i can only see as "hate" from my part, help would be great, a brilliant relationship with a horrible break it makes it harder, and recently because i was asking her why, she blocked me on facebook i dont understand i know how much she loved me !!! can some one give me advice please? i become very needy and have never been that way it was just a shock, have i blown it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your advice, keep it coming please
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reader, MsSadie  +, writes (10 April 2013):
 I want to say that it sounds like you were perhaps taking her for granted while the two of you were together, but the fact of the matter is that she's 17/18. Love to her is what infatuation is to anyone older.
Give her the space she's asked for, and throw yourself back into the dating pool in the meantime. Maybe she'll come around, maybe she won't. I think it will do you well to date someone closer to your age and experience next time, so that you can see what a healthy, mature relationship should be (hint: clingy is not a good quality in a partner).
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reader, Cziao lee  +, writes (10 April 2013):
 Maybe your gal need some space..Although if we love someone so much it doesnt mean that we should stick up with them every second of every day. They need space as they have a life.. Dont contact her she'll get irritated and push you away from her more futher... Let her feel the your absence .. Let her wonder how you got over her so soon I assure you if she is still having feelings for you then she'll contact you trying to find out the reason behind.. If you want her back then just play it safe and cool
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2013): I believe her age says a lot. Girls her age outgrow crushes and you were apparently her first. Unfortunately, you won't be her last. She has matured to the point that she can be definite about ending the relationshipI say this often, and I'll say it again. When someone asks you to stop messaging, STOP MESSAGING! Harassing someone into submission isn't a good way to rekindle good feelings.Sometimes the male ego can't handle being dumped. It tricks the mind into thinking that it's not over unless we say it is. I understand you feel a loss. It's really a new beginning.In this case, the young lady took the initiative; and her decision should be respected. I'm not discounting your feelings by any means. You have strong feelings; but you have to be the adult here.Her capacity to amaze you at her age, should give you more to look forward to from someone better equipped to handle you now. Let her experience life from her level of maturity. Let her date boys and enjoy growing up among people her own age. She needs more time to catch up with your world.You also have to be mature, and prepare to meet your match.She's out there and you need to prepare yourself to handle an amazing "woman."
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyea true, its over im sure, but just have to get on with my own life now, and a year? il be over her by then surely
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reader, CMMP +, writes (10 April 2013):
The biggest turn of (and the quickest way to ruin your chances) to someone who needs to think about things is to start pestering them. She might have just wanted space but seeing you so desperate probably made her decide to end things.
What can you do? Stop contacting her for a year minimum. If she contacts you first play it cool and don't go jumping in her arms right away.
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