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writes:I'm having some problems. The other week my girlfriend told me she was pregnant. Now I'm not stupid enough to be thinking its mine, I'm gay, it's impossible, that's the problem. She's obviosly been with a man. I've not spoken to her since she told me. What am I supposed to do? Do I leave her? Do I stay with her and raise a child I don't want?! Help me? Reply to this Question
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reader, natasha b +, writes (10 January 2013):
Could i please ask what you did because me and my gf split up for a bit and one drunken night she slept with a man she told me as soon as we got back together we have found out shes pregnant im only 21 shes 26 shes wanted a baby for ages but i wanted to wait until i was older i could support her and the baby with a home and everything i need but not sure i could knowning i had no say in it.x
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reader, Miss_Confused91  +, writes (5 November 2012):
Your feelings are reseaonable. I would be totally bewildered if that happened to me. But the question is do you love your partner enough to go through all the drama of gaining trust back and raising a kid you might or might not want. When a baby is born there is a whole new meaning to partnership. it creates a whole new bound that most will grasp and others cant just because of the reminder. SO can you get past everything and buckle down to try to regain everything because if the anwser is no then you should leave your partner and maybe just be friends and start all over again. The choice is yours you are not resonsible for anything unless you want to be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2012): What do you want?You don't give any indication that you really know what you want. Take a piece of paper and make two columns. The one column is headed "Stay with my GF". Under this column you list all the things this involves rectifying, including:My girlfriend cheated on me (or)My girlfriend deceived me and kept the truth from me. My girlfriend and I don't communicate well about important issues which affect our relationship. My girlfriend may not have the emotional maturity to bring me important issues to deal with in the relationship. My girlfriend is pregnant. I don't want to bring up a child I don't want. I am hurt/upset/confused by what happened. I don't know what I want at the moment, part of me wants the relationship and part of me doesn't. The second column is headed "Don't stay with my gf" and under there is listed what this involves, including:I have to break up with my girlfriend. I am hurt/upset/confused by what happened.I don't know what I want at the moment, part of me wants the relationship and part of me doesn't. That's a good place to start, getting it on paper has an interesting effect, it makes things real and changes them to get the ideas out of your head.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (21 October 2012):
 Hello,
Do you stay?! She cheated on you. She only told you she cheated because she had to being pregnant. She is having a mans baby.
I certainly wouldn't stay!
It's not good for anyone, her you or the baby. You would end up blaming the child for ruining things when it wasn't there fault. She got herself into this mess, let her and the daddy deal with it!
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (21 October 2012):
 Hello,
I would have thought that you can't stay in the relationship if this is going to be a child you don't want (not surprisingly in the circumstances), and would you really want to stay with an unfaithful partner anyway?
Your ex girlfriend got herself into this situation and you're not obliged to stay and help her through it.... unless you want to.
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