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writes:I had a fwb for the past 2 months. We've gotten together about 3 times and the sex was great, he also said he enjoyed it very much. I even began liking this guy a lot, possibly falling in love. Now all of a sudden, he wont respond to my calls or texts. Its been a week now and i don't know what happened. The last text i sent him was on thursday asking if he's busy or sorting out a crisis or has simply lost interest but still he didnt reply. I don't know what to do now, i like this guy so much but it seems the odds aren't in my favour.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (9 October 2013):
 Ha ha Code Warrior! Where the heck have you been? That response is exactly why we've missed you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2013): No, they aren't in your favor. Do you understand what FWB means? This is supposed to be someone you are friends with and have sex with, with no strings or emotional attachment involved. You go about your life as usual and if nobody gets into a relationship with someone, you hook up on occasion. Perhaps he has met someone he wants to have a relationship with that person and FWB is over for him. Maybe it ran it's course and he's moved on. Perhaps he is sensing you have stepped out of the FWB zone into looking for a relationship zone and he does not want that.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (7 October 2013):
 Hi OP, I agree the odds aren't in your favour. To be honest, they never really are in FWB situations. Do not take it personally.
The good news is that it's infatuation that you feel rather than love, because falling in love after 3 hook-ups is not possible. It's just the hormones that get released after sex; they can make it feel like love. So you'll get over it much quicker than if was true love, once you get over the hormone fix.
I suggest stop contacting him from now on. I'm sure he'll get in touch when he's horny, but bear in mind that you would be setting yourself up for getting hurt in the future if you keep having sex with him outside of a proper relationship. If he wanted more than FWB, he'd have been in touch by now.
All the best, hope you move on fast and you've learned that FWB situations are precarious x
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