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writes:My best "friends" set me up one day because I was grouchy. What they did was have one of them text me and ask if I was mad at another friend, then reported back to the other friend. I didn't expect it to go the way it did. I said, "It was really g*y you guys cut practice just because it rained. " Somehow they took it the wrong way. I like my friends but one of them always seems to over power the other two, and then I'm left alone. For example, I will want to go to a party with one of them, but none of them will go, unless the main one does, then magically the other two both want to go. What this has to do with my story is the main one had the other two text me and then report to her. It's not fair. I didn't really care that they skipped practice. I just didn't want to make the friends that texted me angry with me. None of the friends ever care about me really. I'm always there with their boyfriend troubles, but when I need a lifeline, they either say oh you're so obsessed with him, or build a bridge and get over it. Academically I am smarter than them, but they're all way more athletic than me. I support them for their awards (like MVP and stuff like that) but when I get an award for being top of the class in math, I'm the geeky brainiac showoff girl. I don't understand it! Why did they set me up, why don't they ever trust me, and why do the other two follow the main girl like dogs?
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (28 May 2011):
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Why do you put up with this? your obviously lacking confidence, so you need to feel part of something and put up with it, rather than just being yourself, these girls are childish, immature, and back stabbing. You dont need to put up with this just be be accepted in life, because one day when everyone goes there merry way, they wont even rememeber you! and I dont mean that to sound horrible, just this is how these type of girls are. Leader of the pack, that is so pathetic. When you can just be yourself, meet people who DO care about you and your feelings, who WILL be a shoulder when you need one. Because one day YOU will look back and say to yourself, "look where I am today, good job, nice family, great freinds, kids,husband," do you see where im going with this?? cut these girls loose, let them find another matt to walk over, because your NOT one, and worth ten of them .
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2011): You need new friends. These are not called friends. And the "main one" doesn't have a true friend either. The two girls are simply following her for popularity. If the main one is not popular anymore the two will leave her like they weren't ever friends. Iv known such types of girls. They're never gonna be there for each other. And they are not called friends. Find someone whom you're comfortable with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2011): Entrapment is horrible. But the two girls didn't set you up. The main girl set you up. And she did that because she feels threatened by you. She wants to discredit you in the eyes of her two little followers to cement their 'bond' with her. The two girls, follow the main girl like dogs because for some it is pack mentality to want an Alpha female and follow her lead. If your two friends are that insecure that they need a 'leader' like that. Then maybe you could question whether or not they are people worth bothering with because they are just an 'extension' of the main girl now and seem happy in that role. So the chances of you having good relationships with them are getting slimmer the longer they spend time with her. It might be time to look around at others you could start hanging out with who are more confident and mature, friends who will support you and meet you half way in friendship.
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