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writes:I can't seem to stay on the good side of people who are suppose to be my friends. Am I doing something wrong?I'm at university, and I'm coming to the end of my first year. As the year has gone on, I feel like people are starting to get fed up with me. I always try and put on a happy-go-lucky persona. I'm friendly to just about everybody on my course, through and through. I give lifts to a few of my friends, and very rarely ask for petrol money from them. I love to have a laugh with people, and over the years I've grown used to putting a smile on people's faces.But lately, it seems like no matter what I do people have got a bad word to say about me. If I do something wrong, or maybe a little stupid, some smart mouth in the class has a comment to make, and in the end it makes me look like an idiot. I'm getting to the end of my tether, so I thought I should ask for some advice here. I can't talk to the guys about it, because otherwise it will seem that I can't take a joke. I can take a joke, but lately it feels like every joke is at my expense, and I have limits!Can somebody help me please?
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (24 May 2009):
Never try to be something your not for others, if they cant like you for who you are then youll be ling to yourself for a very long time.
i dont feel you are reading too much into things at all, people get insecure and worried from time to time, its difficult to keep the balance and be the mate of everyone.
Yes you may be sensitive but i understand your doubts,sometimes it feels everyone is against you but really there not. Try to stick to who you really are, that way youll see whos genuine with you and genuine mates are like no other. Obviously you have limits, we all do but join in! If people start to take the mick then make them look the idiot laugh along and joke! Turn the tables kind of thing. Think positive, things could be so much worse your lucky to have the options you do and to be the person you choose for all the right reasons, go ahead and do it, enjoy it embrace it and start smiling about it!
best of luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): Maybe you just take stuff too personally. You say you are always trying to put on a good persona so you must think that if anyone jokes at your expense or is sarcastic to you must mean you aren't good enough or something. Maybe you can't take a joke. Sometimes when you take life too seriously, you miss out on all the fun and get bogged down in every little interraction you perceive to be negative. I suggest you lighten up.
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