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writes:My friends partner left him after seventeen years together. We found out later that she had been cheating on him and left him for this bloke. He treated her well and never cheated on her. She really couldn't have ended the relationship in a worse way and would discuss or talk things through. At the time he was a broken man. He's had counselling and since then has had a couple of relationships. It's been about 5 years and he's seems to have got over her. She's still with the same bloke which I believe she has now married. I just want to help him he seem so down that he's had such bad luck and been hurt and is the one that is still single. Karma will come back on her but how can I help him. Reply to this Question
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (6 November 2011):
 Hi,I know the feeling too well. There's absolutely nothing that can take the pain away, and he'll remember for the rest of his life. I am a little surprise that has been 5 years, and he still hurt? I hope he can continue seeking a therapist. The only thing you can do is be supportive of him. Do not bring up the subject, but listen to him when he needs to talk. When I was going through that time of my life, the only thing that helped me feel a little better was to just talk.... You are a good friend, and he's lucky to have you... All he needs is a good friend, all he needs is to talk.... I hope your friend feel better, overcome his demons, and hope he can find happiness...Good luck
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (5 November 2011):
 You can only "help" him by being a good friend and standing by him while HE deals with this problem.... It's a little concernworthy that, after 5 years, he's still leaning on this breakup as the source for his travails.... Most/many people would put it behind themselves and get on with life..... He needs a friend, to be sure, but NOT an enabler who will allow him to not address this problem and emerge from his funk....Good luck to you and (more importantly) to him......
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