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writes: HELP!!!My friends have hardly anything in common with me. Different taste in music as I like rock and stuff loud. I like different types of movies, and I like different guys, and if they don't like them they would say "urrrggggghhhhh" and never just accept the fact that I like them! They are two faced. I don't want to say anything to them because they are my mates and I'm afraid they won't want to bother with me anymore. I just want someone to talk to with same interests and sumone who will listen to my problems and not laugh at them!!So please will someone reply who would want to talk to a very upset lonely girl!! Guys or Girls welcome!! Im 15! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2005): Friendships are tough at your age. Girls can be mean and petty amd these so called friends are dragging you down. It might be a good idea to distance yourself and get out there in the "real world" and find friends who respect you.I say real world because one of the readers suggested "chat rooms". I have problems with that advice.Chat rooms are unpredictable and can get dangerous. There are lots of people who prey on young girls, like you. I would suggest you stay away from chat rooms, altogether. Take the safer route and join activities at school and get to know new friends...friends who share your interests. There may be a period of time..where you may feel lonely but in time, you will make new friends. Have faith in yourself and keep trying. There are many wonderful, new people out there who, you will click with. Don't give up. When these friends laugh at you, mock you and treat you badly...they are NOT friends. Thay are selfish people who only think of their own agendas. Personally, I'd rather have NO friends than to be with people that demean me. People like that "suck the life energy" out of others..theyare exhausting to be around. And when they do that...they are not worth the worry. Good luck in your future and keep believing in yourself. Remember, no one has the rightto judge you and to treat you like you are not worthy. Hang in there and the best of luck to you.
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reader, kt  +, writes (17 June 2005):
 hi, im 15 too. my friends are different to me in some ways as well. i still act the way i am but i also pay an interest to what they like, but most of the time we are the same. my advice to you is to get some new friends. ones which have the same interests as you, or if that is too much of a big thing, you can go on some chat rooms on a website of music you like, there are loads of people like you waiting for you there. just be careful on there. you only have two years left at school with your friends and after that you will proberly wont see them again. so dont worrie about them. what ever you choose i wish you the best of luck, and worrie they is someone out there for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2005): I understand how you feel. I have been in your situation and it does hurt. But you got to think of it this way. No matter what the differences are between your friends, if they were true friends, they would accept your choice. They can disagree with it but they should not make fun of you. I used to be afraid of losing my so called friends but when I found true friends, I was so glad to have them gone! Don't worry, you will find true friends. but don't stop being yourself. If they don't like you for who you are and they can't accept you for who you are, you should not bother with them. i have a lot of differences with my mates, but we respect each other. Respect is important in true friendship and so is trust. If these friendships are causing you distress, find new friends. it is hard but you will eventually find them. Hope this helps and remember stay true to yourself! take care.
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reader, sparky2004 +, writes (17 June 2005):
your friends laugh because they are jealous of what you have you are not afraid to let your hair down. my advice to you is to tell them that if they were real friends they would support you not mock you. if they change then you will know there real mates if not i,m sure you will make new mates who will treat you better
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