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writes:I guess this would go under the category of friendships and mean girls? Idk but I need advice.I’ve found every so often a girlfriend (whom I actually really cared for and enjoyed) would slowly disappear. I never saw it coming either. Mostly through social media. I know it sounds petty but this is how we all interact these days and it does mean something Where as they used to like or comment on posts they just kind of stop. I’ll still like or comment bc I care about them but it isn’t reciprocated. Eventually I stop because I’m dojng all the heavy lifting. It just doesn’t exist anymore.This has happened with over ten friends in last couple years. Not all besties but close. I see they still interacr with Others tho Any one else have these experiences? What do you do? Reply to this Question
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reader, 11muds11  +, writes (9 May 2018):
I love social media, but everyone I've met on there, who I haven't met in person, I consider an acquaintance. Some have become friends after meeting up, but even that can take awhile.
Strong friendship, like all love is based on shared experiences. And the strongest emotional bonds between friends usually happens when they are in the presence of others. That's what helps keep them being a friend.
Now there are exceptions when two people experience something very emotional together when they are online. That's what many successful dating sites have learned But normal friendship, it's much harder to get that true bond., unless something major happens.
I think if you get it in your mind that these people are acquaintances, or social media friends, that drift in and out of your life as you need them, it's much easier deal with. At the very least, it might help you stop worrying so much when an acquaintance leaves your life.
Hope this helps. Good luck.
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