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writes:hello dont really know where to start with this, but here goes, i have a really special friend of mine(just friends) i,ve known her for quite a number of years now, what it is shes married, n shes been sleeping around with a few lately, one was just a one off, or so she says lol, the other on n off for a while,she tried to recently get back with someone she used to be involved with, she basically said anything to get him back,she even lied to him saying that she would stop seeing this person she sees on n off, i,ve tried to tell her as a friend that shes not doing herself any favours, shes making herself look bad basically, i know its nothing to do with me, its her own life and that,n she does how she pleases, ive tried to tell her basically that shes making herself look bad etc etc, but she didnt want to know or didnt want to listen to what i was saying,all i was trying to do was to make her step back a little to see whats shes doing, or becoming if put harshly,i,ve basically given up trying to tell her what i think as a friend incase she takes it the wrong way, i,m not telling her what to do, i,m just sort of pointing out the bad things, like what shes doing,how she uses people to get what she wants, how its making her look,etc, do i just ignore what she does from now on n just leave her to it, i dont want to see her get hurt, i,m not very good at communicating but i try my best to put the point across to say what i think at times to her, i know nothing i will say or do will ever change her, i dont want that, all i want to do is be a friend and try to tell her or make her step back a little n look at things,that basically shes better a better person than that,sorry for the long rant, any advive ? Reply to this Question
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (20 June 2007):
 I agree with flowergirl- as you've told her there isn't much else you can do apart from be there for her.
Not only is she making herself look bad but she is running the risk of destroying her marriage but she is the only one that can stop doing what she is doing. Be there for her when her mistakes finally catch her up.
xxxxxx
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reader, flower girl +, writes (20 June 2007):
 You have already tried to tell her and she has paid no attention, so if you are a really good friend then you just have to sit back let her make her own mistakes and just be there for her when it all goes wrong which inevitablly it will.
Take care.xx.
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