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writes:My story is like this. Before this, i was in a college, i havev lot of friends there. Then, i moved to a better college, this college is where one of my friend (not my best friend but she is really nice) boyfriend’s college. My friends ask me to look after her bf here. I don’t really know him at first, her bf was the one who greet me 1st (not me) saying HI something like that. Time passing by, it was my 2nd year here, i feel that i start to like my friend’s bf but i hide it. This guys show the types of guys i always wanted. I hide it very well, but the problem is, my friend’s bf like to disturb me. I don’t know why, that make me and him getting more closer. Lately, he had problem with my friend. They even broke up, this guy told me that his gf ask him to be with me (they breaking up not because of me). I had a feeling that this guy try to flirt with me, but I keep running away. I feel guilty and I afraid that this guy just playing with me, and i guess deep inside their heart (my friend and his bf) they still love each other. What should I do? The important things, i think i was in Love with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2010): It's me here. Thanks for the advice. I'm very appreciate it. The guy i said before already confessed his feeling. And what i feel before was right. He has the same feeling as i'm. But i'm not giving him any answer yet. And i'm too afraid to tell my friend about this. I really need some times to get through this.
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reader, Spades  +, writes (3 June 2010):
 I agree with YouWish. Personally, I would wait it out a bit, see how they turn out. Talk to the friend directly and tell her what's going on. Ask her if it would be okay for you to pursue this.
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reader, mimisoph3  +, writes (3 June 2010):
 if she isnt ur best friend but just a friend and if he likes u more wats so bad about being with him? are they still togehter or have they broken up.i think u should just wait and see i cant tell u wat u shouldnt and should do because i'm not in ur situation and i dont know much about how he treats u or how he is around u and around her...etc..but i will tell u that just watch his body language and how he is around u :) good luck
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reader, YouWish +, writes (3 June 2010):
 Your friend is the important thing here. If your friend isn't over this guy, then you're doing the right thing by not accepting his advances. If your friend might be over the guy, get in contact with your friend and tell her what's going on and ASK her if it's alright if you pursue dating him. That will go a VERY long way with your friend, and she'll be a friend for life.
Your friends are the ones who pick you up and dust you off when you have failings in life, including break-ups. Be a good friend and let your friend have a say in this decision.
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