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writes:This is a friend's issue (seriously) and I don't know what to tell her. Her guy treats her fine but won't commit, is sort of a selfish lover. This guy she met a while ago wants to make her dinner and has been flirting non-stop via txt, I really think hes after sex but she thinks he's playing. They met up once, made out and then, didn't talk. Shes thinking of going with this guy and I told her not to but, she feels she needs to just to "compare." How can I convince her away from the guy? Shes wildly attracted, always looking at his pics. But, just yesterday, she was saying that she thought herself in love with guy no. 1. I think shes just feeling lonely and turning towards attention.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): Like others have said, there is nothing you can do. You can only be there for her when this guy breaks her heart and she comes crying to you. When someone is in love, it's a powerful thing. They are almost blinded by it. If you try and talk to her about it, she will either think you are jealous or she will just stop talking to you about it. So it's best to let her learn for herself, even if that means she has to get hurt. She'll learn eventually.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): Your friend is just not mature enough to know the right guy from the wrong one.
She will probably have to get hurt a few times before she learns. There is not much you can do except point out that she is making her own mess.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2010): You are probably looking out for your friend's best interest but the best thing you can do is stay out of it for she will have to learn on her own.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (16 August 2010):
 I wish there was a way but ultimately ur friend is going to do want she wants regardless of how many times u tell her otherwise about this douche. Its just human nature she's going to have to make the mistake on her own and learn from it. The only thing u can do is be there for her when he finally does end things, handing her tissues, staying at her place bc she doesnt need to be alone and tons of bashing. She will learn what a douche bag he was how she shouldve listened to u in the first place and how she'll never make that mistake again. Some of us girls go through this mistake but it's friends like u that help us get over him fast.
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