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writes:I never have confidence because most of my friends are prettier then me. I love all my friends but sometimes they accidentally hint to me that I'm not the prettiest out of us. So I never have confidence which makes me a little hard to communicate with people. I do communicate well but when it comes to a bunch of people or a really good looking guy I cannot think of anything to say when my friends are around because I always felt that he would like my friends. Sometimes the guy seems to be interested but because I don't talk much, most of the times he would just talk to my friends and then they would be slowly become close. This happened to me like a couple of times. So i want to know is there anyway that I can get confident? How do you guys get more confident? Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): I've been in your situation before, going through high school I was extremelyyyy insecure. I had the gorgeous friends and I was really shy. Now I'm one of the most outgoing person you'll ever know, lol.
One, if your friends are bringing you down, you should really think about trying to find some other people to get close to. Friends are there to support you, not to bring you down.
Two, everyone is beautiful, so stop bringing yourself down about that. You shouldn't think about what other guys see in your friends. You should look at yourself, pick out the good in you. Don't compare yourself to other girls, your friends or anyone else. Comparing yourself to other people will always get you down. it'd get anyone down about themselves. theres always going to be someone funnier, prettier, smarter, someone whos better at something than you. its just the way life is, accept it. just remember, you always have something better to give too.
Three, if you're not comfortable in big crowds or find it hard getting into conversations. The only way to really get over that is to try and put yourself out there. it may sound weird but you have to go out of your comfort zone to get comfortable. You'll have a few knock downs, times when whatever you say might not be the best thing or you're kinda shooed away. that happens, you just have to keep trying. eventually, you'll get used to it and you'll get comfortable in big crowds, talking to boys, and keeping conversations going.
good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): You just have to throw yourself into the conversation no matter how uncomfortable you feel doing that!
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