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*ittle Miss Love
writes:my friend is a lesbian/bi (friend 1) and she has said to another of our friends (friend 2) that she doesn't like it when my friend 2 is around her boyfriend... it's now really awkward when girl 1 and 2 are with girl 2's boyfriend.... girl 2 doesnt want to fall out with anyone, how can i help this situation because they all always come to me for advice and i dont know what to say??
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reader, Abella  +, writes (25 June 2011):
 Friend one has jealousy issues. She owns the problem. Friend two has a boyfriend. Friend one wishes the boyfriend was either not in the picture.
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Friend one either fancies an exclusive with friend two or with friend two's boyfriend.
Friend one should respect the other relationship and not try to break it up and not try to come between friend two and the boyfriend of friend two.
Friend one is making a very obvious try to cause trouble.
If she has a problem with either or both friend two and the boyfriend of friend two then she should tell them to their face exactly what is being done by either or both to cause friend one concern, and why it makes friend one feel.
My bet is that friend one would rather poison the atmosphere behind the backs of friend two and behind the back of the boyfriend of friend two's boyfriend.
Some people really enjoy creating the nasty tension of assasination and gossip that has no basis in fact, but is designed to hurt. All done without once talking it over to resolve to the face of the person they are trying to gossip about. It gives them a sense of power to manipulate situations and it is nasty and underhand behavior. Tell her to resolve it or cut out the gossiping behind the backs of others. Or else join a political party where her talents at manipulation of the truth and telling lies, behind the scenes, may be considered as useful. In real relationships such 'talents' are just mean and disruptive.
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