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writes:recently i feel like my friends see me as a stupid person. i dont want to come off sounding conceited, but i have always done better in work than most of my friends. recently, ive noticed them making fun and laughing at me because i havent been doing as well, and its like they're relishing with the fact that they are doing better than me now. i feel like the only one good trait i really had was that i was quite smart, because i dont like anything else about myself. i also thought that that was the only reason why anyone would be attracted to me, or like me. my friends just see it as a joke but it really affects me because i feel like other than that, i have no other trait that is good about me. i really want to stop thinking this way because all i'm doing is adding a lot of pressure on myself and getting upset. Reply to this Question
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (5 August 2009):
 You've got to get a handle on your insecurity. It's the thing that's making you feel upset and depressed about yourself. I think it would be good for you to try some counseling and/or some self-help books about increasing your self esteem. Once you discover and believe in all your other wonderful qualities no one will ever be able to hurt you with bad thoughts. Loving and accepting yourself is the best defense against so-called friends who put you down.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): i have friends like that too. the reason they're doing it is because they know you're better at them and they feel like they cant compete with you. then the moment they get a chance they brag about it to seek your approval. that's the most likely reason for something like this. its quite cynical to say this but everyone is competitive whether they like it or not. its human nature. i'm sure this would be the reason for them acting like this, because you didn't mention anything about them teasing you before? so i don't think they hate you or anything like that.on the subject of you not liking anything about yourself and thinking you have no good qualities. i know how it is to be in that boat. my girlfriend and i were both in that situation before we met, suicical even. then we met each other and we pointed out all the beautiful things we see in eachother. so even if you dont realise it now, you do have A LOT to offer somebody even if its years away, and i'm sure that special person could point out a thousand good traits about you when you can only pick one.so dont give up. also it might help to just tell your friends to stop teasing you. be upfront. if they know theyre hurting you and are good friends, they will stop. it never helps to keep everything inside.
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