A
female
age
36-40,
*ammey
writes:Hi all, everyone who I know is used to tell me everytime about their problems. I meet my friend and he/she only complains. Well , I don't mind it. I even like to listen to them and help them to feel better. But the problem is if I have a problem and begin to complain they usually tell me:"You problem is not that hard", "you should not be nervous you are always the best what should I say?" or "help yourself I have alot of my problems" or "what should I do with it??" I almost never complain but if I begin this usually happens. Even my ex-bf used to tell me Iam perfect listener and Iam like his pillow.And always if I find a new friend they usually begin to complain how is life hard etc..Some ppl even suggest me to the others....Iam not sure now if they are my good friends.I just want to know your opinion.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (30 April 2009):
 Your friends obviously value you listening to their problems, but try not get bogged down by some peoples negativity. Like when they find a willing ear all they can do is complain... it can get a bit much. So if you feel someone is taking advantage of you and being negative, dont be afraid to gently tell them to be more positive and to try and find solutions for their problems!
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