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writes: all my friends are in a relationship except me and when i'm in their midst,i feel humiliated and i have always have that dream of having my own guy when i'm about finishing my course in school.what should i do Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2006): Hun, humiliation is a pretty strong word. I'm trying to figure out if this word is just the over-drama of your angst--or do you really feel embarrassed humiliated that you don't have a bf? No matter how you describe it..you are enduring what so many young people experience when they base all their own worthiness and value..on having a bf or is this a case of attaining approval from your friends? Either way, I guess I'm trying to say, if you had confidence and valued yourself for just who you are-you wouldn't care what your friends thought nor would you really worry that you have a bf, because with confidence in yourself, you would 'know, without a doubt" that you will find love. And finding love is a wonderful thing and I believe there is a person for everyone, out there. But before a girl begins dating she has to know one very important thing...self-love. It sounds like you need to become a bit stronger, gain a foothold on your confidence and get emotionally ready for a relationship. Your self -worth and how you value yourself is what some potential, future bf will take note about you. Whatever you do, never, never act needy or grateful that some guy is dating you...that's a disaster waiting to happen. Guys hate that. Just take care of yourself, your emotions, mature a bit more, gain more confidence and pleeease...don't worry about what your friends think. In order to find love-love yourself, first. People who feel good about who they are and who love themselves are very attractive to other people. The charm and confidence makes them stand out. Sooner or later, a boyfriend will come along. Relax..Try not to worry hun, some people just have to wait a little longer. He's out there...give it time. Good luck dear and take care.
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reader, SexKitten69  +, writes (27 November 2006):
 HI, i really think that you shouldn't feel pressured into a relationship just because all of you friends have someone especially if your still studying, there is plenty of time for that after you education!
If you did start a relationship and something happened whilst you were still at school you could jeopordise all that you have worked for.
Relationships hurt when they finish and if i were you i'd be happy enjoying a single life of fun!
Regards
Kaz
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reader, littlelostgirl +, writes (27 November 2006):
hi darling, how old are you ?, i have lots of friends in there 20s and 30s who are still single and have very happy lives. you need to start to enjoy yourself without worrying about men because u may jump for the first man that comes along who might be a wrong one. you dont need a man to be happy and i know how you feel, your scarred of being left on the shelf, i was to but i made sure i enjoyed my single time. my major advice would be to be yourself i can not compare to a size 8 christina aguilera look alike but who will the guys go for the bubbly brunnette in the middle of the dance floor having a great time or the quite snotty girl in the corner !.
get yourself a career and be your own individule without a man. if you really feel you want a man then why not join a dating agency, i did a few years back and the advantage is you are all looking for the same thing !.
speak to your friends you shouldnt feel belittled around them, truth is they probably envy the care free fun posistion you are in !. have fun and im sure you will meet some one but just be patient and enjoy your time without a man. set your self some life goals, weather its career, traveling, dreams do them and on your way you will find some one who is like minded and will hit it off straight away,
be an independent woman !!!
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2006): You are young yet and it won't happen until the right time, so don't rush it. They have guys - so what - life isn't a competition!! Just enjoy your life the way it is. At least you don't have any moody miserable guy getting on your nerves!! Look on the positive side of life! You are young and have your life ahead. Don't be in too much of a hurry!!
Enjoy your youth!!!!!!!!
Take care
xx
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