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writes:I have this friend, lets call her A, who likes this guy, lets call him B. It started out with A and B being friends. Really good friends. A had a crush on him for a long, long time. B didn't. A eventually convinced herself that B did like her. So she told him that one of her friends liked him. B guessed everyone A is friends with until he guessed her. They were texting by the way. AND SHE NEVER WROTE BACK. She spent half an hour with me on the phone telling me how she was so depressed, blah blah blah. Then she told him she liked him via facebook. For three long weeks, he didnt even LOOK at her. Finally, she came into school, told him she didnt like him anymore, and things went back to normal. Except, she kept going on and on about how wierd he acted and why would he do that? And everytime, i told A "he was probably wierded out by the fact that you guys are such good friends and you told him you liked him". But that didnt stop A. And, a few weeks later, she liked him again. Because apperently, he was "flirting with her". I was there, it wasn't flirting. He was just being a normal guy. She kept liking B, and became more and more convinced he liked her. He didnt. Finally, she tells me "i found out that B didnt like me" i spent another half hour consoling her, except this time she didnt tell him she like him. A month passed, and yesterday i got a text saying"i think i like B again" from A. And, yet again, she thinks he likes her. After he told her who he really likes, too. Her excuse? "he's probably covering up". What should i do to get it through her head that B is not interested in her? Thanks for readin that, btw.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (30 January 2011):
 Well your friend A is a bit persistent isn't she?
She's throwing herself at B who doesn't want anything to do with her! Not to mention she's making herself look like a needy fool.
I know you want to get it through her thick skull that B is just not that into her, unfortunately you're not going to be able to. No offense, but often teens are going to do what they want despite what their friends or parents say. She is completely convinced that B is secretly in love with her. The only way she is going to comprehend that he doesn't like her is when he gets a girlfriend. Even then I doubt she'll get a clue.
You could rent the film "He's Just Not That Into You" and force her to watch. Hopefully, she doesn't have a short attention span. Or even get the self help guide at your local library.
If she starts going on about him again, then I would cut her off and change the subject. Cross your fingers that she'll find a new guy to latch onto, or that he'll get a girlfriend soon.
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