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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Recently, I have developed mutual feelings/chemistry with someone. Our personal relationship has grown well over the last few months, and we are in all technicalities dating/seeing each other. However, I have had a hard time telling my friend as she is somewhat obsessed with the idea of him marrying into her own family. He is a very good friend of their family, and we initially met/formed an attraction at my friend's house. When we discuss our relationship to my friend, she gets quiet and upset because she wants him 'into' her family and always hoped he would marry her sister. I don't want to jeopardize our friendship, but this is someone I actually see myself having a serious relationship, possibly leading to marriage with. I have discussed things with him, and he says he loves her sister as a friend, but has no sexual attraction to her, and could never see her as more than a really good friend. How can I put her to ease/ make things better between us and still maintain a relationship with this boy? What do you suggest when dating in such tricky situations? Is it likely she will begin to settle down and accept the situation? Have any of you had similar experiences? Reply to this Question
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (15 September 2010):
 She's trying to claim him, and has no right to do so. She has no place to display such behaviour.
Don't let her opinion get in the way, your relationship is none of her business. She needs to realize that not only do you have a mind and opinion of your own, but so does he. He's already made it clear how he feels about her sister, that should be the end of it. If she continues to act this way, distance yourself from her until she gets the hint.
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